My BFF was in town for my daughters bday so today we decided to drink and we got way to drunk but I was still ok enough to know what was going on all night my bf was hugging her and talking about threesomes but I was looking at them through the window and I saw him hug her and grab her butt so I called him out on it in the car and we got into a fight then we went home so me and him were in bed ready to fall asleep and my BFF wallks in to lay with us she was drunk so I get up to pee and I come back and I saw them kissing I went crazy and after a long night of fighting I finally get the truth out of him and it turns out he made her hand grab him an he tried touching her. I'm soooo heartbroken and we have a daughter together I can't eat it out of mind!! My parents offered to bring me back home to California with my baby but I love him soo much I want to work it out go to counseling or something but I can't get what he did out of my mind nd I'm so hurt!!! What can I do????
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you can leave or you can be miserable
Alcohol can certainly alter your behavior and thinking. But if you all were sober enough to fight, then they were sober enough to know that they were disrespecting you. I mean, you weren't even gone from the house; you were in the bathroom!!! I know it hurts liek crazy. And the first thing we usually want to do (typically women) is work it out because we love them sooooooo much and can't imagine not being with them. What you can do is make a very difficult choice. You can either take your parents up on their offer to move to California with your baby. Pros to this are that you can get some space, clear your head, and really decide if you want to try to be with this guy. Distance really does make the heart grow fonder - SOMETIMES. And if you are both willing, you can work things out later. I personally think you NEED the space, especially to clear the visual from your mind. The other choice is that you can stay where you are and go on the ridiculous rollercoaster of emotions about what happened, why, how, what made them do it, and blah blah blah. I say go with option one; get the heck out of there. And quite frankly, don't look back.
Oh no.
I hope you're okay.
That's probably one of the most sh&tty situations I've ever heard about.
I honestly don't know what I would do in your situation. I probably would have smashed the bedside lamp over his stupid face to begin with.
You're pretty much screwed either way. You can stay with him but it's going to be really tough to get over that and your relationship will probably never get back to the way it was before. Or you could go, but then you would be breaking up your daughter's home.
What an ***. I don't even know you and I'm still getting mad after hearing what he did to you!
Maybe it's a good idea to get away for a few weeks to your parents so you can clear your head a bit and figure out how you feel once you've calmed down :(
He was drunk. People don't think as clearly when they are drinking. Its not like he was boinking her. Give him a pass this time but tell him it better never happen again
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