My fiancé and her ex husband ?
So we both have kids from different marriages but about a year ago we decided to move in together. It was hard especially because her ex husband would not help with his kids. I have been taking care of everything since. She’s gotten into it with him because he doesn’t help. Has told him I been taking care of his kids. Anyways, she doesn’t have the best relationship with him and she always tells me when they speak. Recently though, he was playful texting with her. It wasn’t bad it was about kids. And was joking with her but she always tells when they speak. This time she didn’t. Should I be worried??
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Do you really want to take on the responsibility of a partner with children as they will forever have to speak to their ex about the care of their children and then marriage and grandchildren. Sounds like you are not enjoying the whole package.
To worry or not is up to you. There should be no need for her to report to you ever time she hears from her ex, just as you should have no need to report to her every time you hear from yours. No trust = no relationship. If you don't trust her not to step out on you with her ex (or anyone else), end the relationship and move on. It would make everyone's life easier (esp her and their children) if she and her ex could get along well, don't you think?
If you're going to feel insecure every time your partner speaks to the coparent of her children this marriage isn't going to last long. Sadly one cannot just pretend their childs' father doesn't exist. She's trying to make the best of a bad situation. It's also way controlling to expect her to report her every conversation with him to you.
Both of you need to slow your roll, because there are kids involved. It's not ok to move in together, especially when the 2 of you obviously had some major issues to resolve. Same with getting engaged. You're doing everything backwards.
Now, on top of all these other issues, you don't trust her. This is obvious when you ask if you should be worried. Nobody here knows, but the point is, you should have established unconditional trust before asking her to marry you.
All I can suggest is always put YOUR kids first, meaning they are your top priority. I don't know what you mean that you've been taking care of her kids, but I do know this increases the odds she got with you for the wrong reasons.
life is hard enough without having to deal with a whole new set of family members. just realize thats just how it is...
Always worry about an ex because you never know.
first of all the father should be paying child support, she needs to take him to court for it. If not then you should rethink your relationship with her
Assuming that she is your fiancée (female), you should know her well enough to answer this yourself. If he refuses to pay anything for his children, why is she even talking with him? What will happen if you two split? You need to get a court order to make him pay for the children he (jointly) brought into the world. If you don't, he will be quite happy for you to pay for them - why wouldn't he be? Her too.