I’ve been in a relationship for about 4 months now and every things been going great. In my boyfriends previous relationship he was cheated on and hurt really bad. We had a really deep conversation tonight and he told me he does trust me, but just not 100% because of his past experience. He still gets upset by this ex but tells me about how much he wants to kill him and see him be miserable. Should I be worried? He said I’m doing everything perfectly and i can’t do anything to make him trust me more... but i feel like there has to be something i can do. Also, I know you don’t know him or any of us but do you think i should worry that he still gets upset about the way his ex treated him? I mean I can see he is super happy right now and it does show... I’m just a little worried.
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There is nothing you can do .. He's afraid of getting hurt probably because he trusted her 100% and never expected her to do that to him .. So he doesn't want to make that same mistake again .. But it's fine nothing personal , sooner or later the trust will build up. Just keep reminding him that your nothing like her, and just because she broke his heart doesn't mean you will, etc. support and love him :)
I guess it's alright for you to worry about him. You seem to care about him a lot. It'll take awhile for him to trust you completely. It will also take some time for him to get over his past. Just be there for him when he's in trouble.
It was probally really hard to take in and was someone he really liked but he is with you just forget about his past and look into the future.