So my boyfriend has to have my social media passwords or else he gets mad and threatens to break up with me. He says it’s not about control, it’s about transparency. I have absolutely nothing to hide, he can look through whenever he wants, but he says that he HAS to have my passwords and if I don’t give it to him and I say I don’t want to then that’s “f****d up”. He has my phone password and I have his, even though I have never asked for it, I don’t have his social media because I don’t agree with this and I don’t need it, I trust him, he says he trusts me too and it’s not about that. My friends now only text me because they are afraid to send me anything over social media, they don’t want him to see, they don’t know what he will get mad over, what they can joke about and tell me. He doesn’t open my messages but he can still see what the convo is about. He also always asks me if I talked to anyone that day and what did I talk about and when I don’t want to tell him, he gets mad and says if I don’t wanna be with him, I should tell him to leave. Which makes no sense, my convos with other people aren’t his business, I don’t have things to hide but my friends don’t want him to know our stuff. I wanna be with him and tried explaining how I feel to him but he doesn’t understand and I hate how he has to know EVERYTHING about my life, and if I don’t tell him, he blames me for excluding him. How do I deal with this? What do I do?
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Ditch that sucker at once.
I feel like this man is totally controlling over you. It may be from his own self insecurity he has developed in the past or his past relationships of trust. But, at the same time he shouldn't b asking you all the time who you are messaging, relationships are built on trust and good communication. I would leave him if it gets worse or confront him about it and see if he changes
Imagine a life married to him. You deserve respect, and trust in any serious relationship, and you will regret him more and more, as time instills your aggravation. That's another way of saying he is not going to change.
Time to get rid of this control freak and find a new boyfriend. I hope you aren't living with him.
This guy is a complete control freak! Change the passwords you gave him. The dump him and run, do not walk away from him and do not answer his calls and do not contact him. Find a lawyer in case you want to file a restraining order against him.
if he doesn't trust you enough that he needs to go through all your stuff just to make sure your not up to something.
If you got nothing to hide, it might be time to get a new boyfriend. KICK HIM TO THE CURB.
YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT!!!!!
Even if you had lots of things to hide, then it still doesn't make it right that he demand this of you. He sounds like a control freak, get away from him as fast as possible!
GET RID OF HIM. THIS IS WHAT ARIANA MEANT WHEN SHE SAID THANK U, NEXT! In all seriousness, your relationship will go very bad really quickly if you give him your passwords. He’s a control freak who’s masculinity is so fragile and he needs to feel like he’s in control 25/8. Relationships are about trust. Kick him to the curb
NO IT IS ABOUT CONTROL. YOU NEED TO KICK HIM TO THE CURB
This guy is a control freak, get rid of him pronto.