Just because theres an argument going on, doesnt always mean it has something to do with the bipolar, if there is good reason for why you fiance wants to do that,t hen you will just have to deal with. However, if this is to do with the bipolar, then you will just have to be supportive.
I hate to say it but MOVE ASAP... Is that your place by the way? If not get your things and go. Your BIPOLAR mate thinks you love them one moment and thinks you're against them the next. The BIPOLAR brain has different thoughts than we do. You can find these people at mental clinics or even at work in the office. They live a regular life and have fits every once in a while. So if you stay, when obstacles lightened out of the blue it will happen again.
If I were you, I would get another fiance. Bipolar is a serious mental illness, typically, schitzophrenia, and parnoid delusional, which only gets worse with time. The main problem with bipolar syndrom is that when they do not take their medication, they can completely loose touch with reality. They can be violent and cause domestic violence problems. It's not their fault that they are mentally ill, but the only thing which keeps them in check is the medication. The reason why bipolar people stop taking their medication is because the medication allows them to calm down, slow down and attain a level of moderation and normality in their lives. Then, as a result of the normality, they think they don't need the medication any longer and they stop taking it. Or, the medication makes them feel tired and lethargic and so they stop taking it so they can "feel normal." It doesn't take long for them to revert back to the schizo tendencies again. Bipolar people often have multiple personality disorder in which they assume various roles, usually opposite of their "normal" role. Quite often, there are voices in their heads talking to them, actual personalities they have created which they speak to.
This is a very serious mental illness and if you want any kind of "normal" life other than constant turmoil, disruption, and craziness, you will find another person.
Leaving a bipolar person can be very traumatic, they can go out into outer space, even become violent and quite frequently they can mix drugs and alcohol together into a toxic brew which accelerates the other problems.
The problem never goes away, it can only be managed with drugs, and it becomes progressively worse with age.
I think you need to understand exactly what is happening to him or her and why. You had better read a book or do some net surfing to specific sites dealing with bipolar disorder and get a complete picture of what you are getting involved with.
She or he will deny they have a problem, deny that they need medication, and they will be very convincing to you that the people in the walls are listening to them, they are being followed and all other kinds of delusional things.
It would take a very special and very understanding and compassionate person to love a person like this and adequately deal with the serious problems these people create for themselves and others. So if you are not prepared to handle these problems, you had better think twice.
Fiancee being female right ? fiance is male so not sure if you made a spelling mistake either way.
Anyway if you live with someone like this, the easy question is why are you living with that person ?
Bi-polar is something my ex husband suffered from and in turn I suffered too, its not healthy and it does not make for harmony.
My ex was on tabs from the doctor but his personality still made me unhappy as I could not take the strain.
Choice is yours, live this way constantly accepting the defectiveness in their personality and you suffering because of it or move on and live a "normal" life.
well there has to be a reason for her wanting to throw out your belongings and if thats the case you need a huge and romantic apology with roses ext.....but if this is just a random act then she needs to seek help or she did something she feels guilty about either way you should attempt to work it out
This will be a difficult person to deal with.When he or she is calmer suggest they see a doctor.Are they on medication? Maybe they need to seek help.I guess all you can do is go if that is what they want.And hopefully they come to their senses and get help.It may not be the bipolar talking either.
Do you deserve it? If not, just ask her to calm down and wait until you can get home to talk about things with her. Tell her you think there can be a compromise to make things better.
Then tell her tht in order to get some rest, she should take her meds.
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Well it depends on the situation.
Just because theres an argument going on, doesnt always mean it has something to do with the bipolar, if there is good reason for why you fiance wants to do that,t hen you will just have to deal with. However, if this is to do with the bipolar, then you will just have to be supportive.
I hate to say it but MOVE ASAP... Is that your place by the way? If not get your things and go. Your BIPOLAR mate thinks you love them one moment and thinks you're against them the next. The BIPOLAR brain has different thoughts than we do. You can find these people at mental clinics or even at work in the office. They live a regular life and have fits every once in a while. So if you stay, when obstacles lightened out of the blue it will happen again.
If I were you, I would get another fiance. Bipolar is a serious mental illness, typically, schitzophrenia, and parnoid delusional, which only gets worse with time. The main problem with bipolar syndrom is that when they do not take their medication, they can completely loose touch with reality. They can be violent and cause domestic violence problems. It's not their fault that they are mentally ill, but the only thing which keeps them in check is the medication. The reason why bipolar people stop taking their medication is because the medication allows them to calm down, slow down and attain a level of moderation and normality in their lives. Then, as a result of the normality, they think they don't need the medication any longer and they stop taking it. Or, the medication makes them feel tired and lethargic and so they stop taking it so they can "feel normal." It doesn't take long for them to revert back to the schizo tendencies again. Bipolar people often have multiple personality disorder in which they assume various roles, usually opposite of their "normal" role. Quite often, there are voices in their heads talking to them, actual personalities they have created which they speak to.
This is a very serious mental illness and if you want any kind of "normal" life other than constant turmoil, disruption, and craziness, you will find another person.
Leaving a bipolar person can be very traumatic, they can go out into outer space, even become violent and quite frequently they can mix drugs and alcohol together into a toxic brew which accelerates the other problems.
The problem never goes away, it can only be managed with drugs, and it becomes progressively worse with age.
I think you need to understand exactly what is happening to him or her and why. You had better read a book or do some net surfing to specific sites dealing with bipolar disorder and get a complete picture of what you are getting involved with.
She or he will deny they have a problem, deny that they need medication, and they will be very convincing to you that the people in the walls are listening to them, they are being followed and all other kinds of delusional things.
It would take a very special and very understanding and compassionate person to love a person like this and adequately deal with the serious problems these people create for themselves and others. So if you are not prepared to handle these problems, you had better think twice.
Fiancee being female right ? fiance is male so not sure if you made a spelling mistake either way.
Anyway if you live with someone like this, the easy question is why are you living with that person ?
Bi-polar is something my ex husband suffered from and in turn I suffered too, its not healthy and it does not make for harmony.
My ex was on tabs from the doctor but his personality still made me unhappy as I could not take the strain.
Choice is yours, live this way constantly accepting the defectiveness in their personality and you suffering because of it or move on and live a "normal" life.
Good luck.
well there has to be a reason for her wanting to throw out your belongings and if thats the case you need a huge and romantic apology with roses ext.....but if this is just a random act then she needs to seek help or she did something she feels guilty about either way you should attempt to work it out
This will be a difficult person to deal with.When he or she is calmer suggest they see a doctor.Are they on medication? Maybe they need to seek help.I guess all you can do is go if that is what they want.And hopefully they come to their senses and get help.It may not be the bipolar talking either.
Do you deserve it? If not, just ask her to calm down and wait until you can get home to talk about things with her. Tell her you think there can be a compromise to make things better.
Then tell her tht in order to get some rest, she should take her meds.
With all due respect to the person, you want to Run To The Hills, because you can never guess what they are going to do next.
Go home, get your stuff and say, "It is over, good bye." and move. When you do let go, you will feel a tremendous feeling of optimism.
Call their bluff. Send a taxi round for them to put your belongings in.
At the worst you've wasted the cost of a taxi
Take your belongings to work and don't come home.