Hooked up with a guy on tinder (first time I’ve ever hooked up with anyone, I’ve always been a relationship person) and we talked for hours and honestly we were extremely compatible and it was the best conversation I’ve had in years.
Also, the best sex I’ve had in my life as his focus was actually in me and not just himself
I expected him to leave after we had sex but he slept overnight till 9am and I woke up to him looking at me but not in a creepy way. I kind of felt like I could’ve gotten breakfast with him, he was a great guy, but I just got out of a relationship and knew I wasn’t emotionally available.
However, I can’t stop thinking about how compatible we were and how much I enjoyed being with him.
Should I send him a text?
From a mans perspective do you think this is someone I should look into getting to know more or just let it go as a one time hookup that just so happened to be with an amazing person?
Btw we’re both 21 and in the military
Answers & Comments
You are free to contact him, if that be your wish, there is no rule saying you can't.
If you had the best conversation you've had in years AND the best sex you've had in years with this guy, I'd say it's definitely worth at least having a repeat! Even if it doesn't turn into a full fledged relationship, at least you'll get to repeat the best conversation and best sex again, maybe a few times. Tinder hookups are becoming an extremely normal part of life now unlike a few years ago, so don't feel bad about it! The way we're headed, we all need to rethink normal relationships and think more in terms of lots of "short-term" partners and a few long term ones. I've also had AMAZING sex from a Tinder hookup and it didn't turn into anything because we both agreed in the end but still it was definitely worth the couple hours we invested, short drive, and price of a condom! Lol.
Contact him see what happens. All this nonsense about "emotionally available" is thinking not feeling. Romance is in general not thinking its feeling. He may be feeling and thinking the same way
Look at what you posted. You say you are NOT READY for a relationship. Either that is true or it isn't. If you aren't ready, then why lead a guy on and ruin things for both of you? If you are ready, then stop telling yourself you aren't and reach out to him. Just don't set your expectation too high. In all that conversation, did either of you mention anything about why you are on Tinder looking for easy sex or if either of you was hoping for more? That would be something to find out.