We just moved house. Our head flatmate (she rents house doesn't own it) was friendly to my partner and I in the beginning. Now has started nit picking. Complained about my dog's poo on lawn. I apologised as I had forgot to pick it up as I work long hours. She works on farm from home. I have picked it up everyday since, not forgotten once. However, now other things have started coming up - our barking at something when we are away - I straight away found him somewhere else for care during day, problem solved. Too much time cooking, hints about vaccuming house since we have a dog (which I have done on a regular basis as my partner informed her) and a couple of other small things which in my opinion warrant only discussion as nothing major - just money wise as will happen with two extra people in house - higher powerbill etc.
I am female, my partner is male. We both work in transport, I have a new vehicle as a result of my hardwork. She is single female. I am in my twenties, partner is 15+ years older, closer to her age.
Our dog is very well behaved, apple of our eyes. We do things together, sometimes different hobbies separately. Strong, happy relationship.
What do you think as per my main question? Just don't want my mind to be over reacting to something which maybe only exists in my view.
Update:Asking about jealousy as we've had this situation in the past.
Answers & Comments
Maybe you can find a place of your own, that you can afford. even if its smaller.
It's a LOT for a single woman to take on a couple with a dog for roommates. It's a lot! Maybe she's just finding it a bigger challenge than she'd thought it'd be. She doesn't have a dog? You having a dog is a major change. She doesn't have a partner? Having a couple as roommates is a major change. I think that all three of you thought that it'd be easier, and a better idea, that it actually is or was ever going to be. In your 20's, you might not realize how very rare it is that a man in his late 30's plus would be renting a room in someone else's house for he and his girlfriend and their dog. I stopped having roommates when I was 25 and never did again until I began to live with my husband in our own place. If you and your guy are both gainfully employed, maybe you two could just have a frank discussion with each other about this entire notion.
I see no jealousy. I see two parties (one a single woman, one a couple) who are not compatible roommates.
Quite frankly, I see nothing for her to be jealous about.
Doesn’t sound like she’s jealous, sounds like she doesn’t enjoy having you as roommates. Maybe she isn’t an animal person, maybe you have different standards of clean than she does (pet owners tend not to view things like dog hair and poop the same way non pet owners do), but she doesn’t sound jealous. Believe it or not, not all older women are jealous of younger women, not all single people are jealous of people in relationships.
She doesn't sound jealous. She sounds like someone who has a lot of internal emotional discontent, and therefore has little focus left-over for dealing with minor annoyances that come from outside of her.
I suspect she is not roommate material, and you should move out.