My husband and I don’t see eye to eye when it comes to home décor. I have always liked things to be coordinated, whereas he could care less about what something looks like. I realize that he’s a man and men usually don’t care, but it is frustrated by my desire to decorate. We bought a new home about nine months ago and we have a long way to go with decorating. However, I have several things that are just for decoration and not for use. For instance, the coffee pot (we don’t drink coffee at home anyway), my decorative potholders and towels, etc. Also, in my restrooms I have decorative towels, accessories and flower shaped soaps that are for decoration. I don’t want people wiping their hands on the decorative towels when they use the restroom. The trash can in the front bathroom has gold colored pine cones in it because I don’t want people putting garbage in it. Those items were kind of pricey so I don’t want them to be ruined. Is there anything wrong with that?
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I don't think that there is anything wrong with decorating a home. A home is about a refuge for you and your spouse to feel comfortable. When my husband and I bought our first home we battled with the same issue. . .
he basically didn't see the point. . .
so, I started saving money and decorating regardless of what he thought. . .he finally got to the point where he said, "honey, I love our home and everyone who comes here does too. . .I just want you to know you did a great job."
I am huge on interior design and I think that it really does "make a house a home"
I say go for it. . .
as far as the items that you don't want ruined. . .you might want to consider removing them from main areas when you have guests. . .or get a lovely alternative that is less expensive to some of the handtowels that you can put out when guests are in the home. . .
Let him know that you understand he doesn't agree with your "designer's eye" but it is something that will make you happy and you'd like him to let you take the reigns on it. . ."
be communicative. . .hopefully over time he'll realize how nice it is to have a nice place to come home after a long day at work
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Absolutely not. You need to be able to express yourself through decor in your home because this is something that you looked forward to being able to do wayyy before he even came into your life, I'm sure! lol My mother lives in a "glass house" with wall to wall white carpeting and she ran a daycare there. You would never believe it by looking at her house. However, you do need to understand that there has to be a back up plan to compensate for all the things that cant be used like towels etc. Keep a paper towel rack or a designated hand cloth in the bathrooms. Maybe even a liquid soap and lotion dispenser. Those can even be very decorative too. Trash does go inside the bucket, not design, so just line it girl and keep it cleaned regularly. Tell him to sit down and enjoy how pretty you make it and just remember if you take away something by decor you need to replace it with another option for convenience. Hope I helped.
There is nothing wrong with it...it is just not functional in a guy's way of thinking...sometimes it is okay to have decorative things in the home, but they shouldn't rule over functionality...maybe you guys can compromise on things and not have them out all the time???....just a thought...one of the reasons I'm not married anymore is because the house didn't need to look like it was about to be in a Better Homes and Gardens or Southern Living Photo shoot every single day...
I understand having things that are only for decoration, like towels, throws, etc. However, you shoulddn't keep something that is meant to be used if you don't want it to be used. How is anyone going to know not to? Are you going to tell anyone who comes into your house what they can and cannot touch? At the very least, you should have coubles of the things that are typically used in the rooms, such as a regular trash can in addition to the decorative one.
yeah, there's something wrong with that. you're more obsessed with appearances than with what's real. I don't see a problem with the decorative coffee pot but there is DEFINITELY a problem with the decorative soap and towels in the bathroom. People see that and they shake their heads in bewilderment, thinking about what kind of an air-head does stuff like this?
The towels and soaps, i can understand because they can wear out if you have to wash them over and over. the soaps will wear down too. The TRASH CAN? All you have to do to keep a trash can up is to put a lining in it and wash it every blue moon. I promise it will not wear out. I think you should provide liquid soap and papertowels so that people don't feel the need to use your GOOD towels and soaps.
I put down a antique very large rug and told everyone not to walk on it. and I bought 2 victorian style chairs and told everyone not to sit on them. So I understand where your coming from. But my husband thinks I'm nuts he wants to know how he is suppose to get in the living room without walking on the rug . Hahhaaa I think its funny.