I’m 25 yrs old and I’ve never really had any friends. I was a loner in elementary school and middle school. High school was a bit better, I had friends I hung out with during school but as soon as school was done for the day, I didn’t hang out with anyone. College is the same thing, I don’t really talk to anyone, I’m really bad at making friends, and if I do start talking to someone its usually on the last week of the semester which after that we usually never see each other again. What I mean by “friends” is people to hang out with, movies, venting, stuff like that. I have social media “friends” but I never hang out with anyone. Every weekend I just hang with my dog and watch everyone else go out with friends. I feel like thats odd but I also don’t know how to fix that. How do you make friends? It might have to do with the fact that I’m VERY introverted. I’m also gay qnd don’t really like typical “dude stuff” like sports and cars and other “dude” things. I don’t know, sometimes I think it would be nice to have friends.
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when u feel like ur an introvert...keep to urself, dont really make friends easily....the only way to make friends is to meet ppl*.........try to join something u enjoy where u can also meet other ppl that are interested in the same things you are*........
We can be friends!
There may be no immediate solution to your loneliness. But you can successfully cope by following the SIX STEPS TO A LASTING FRIENDSHIP
1. BE A FRIEND. It takes initiative to offer proof of your friendship. Jesus said: “Practice giving, and people will give to you.” (Luke 6:38) A word of encouragement or a helping hand may be the seed from which a great friendship will grow. American essayist Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “The only way to have a friend is to be one.” If you give of your time to help others—a child with his homework or an elderly person with shopping or keeping his or her house or garden neat—you will feel happier and perhaps begin a genuine friendship.
2. MAKE TIME TO CULTIVATE A FRIENDSHIP. Most people desire the benefits of friendship. Yet, they are too busy to invest the necessary timeRemember, friendship, like a flowering plant, needs to be watered and nurtured for it to blossom—and that takes time.
3. PAY ATTENTION WHEN OTHERS TALK. Good, attentive listeners often find it easier to have friends. “Every man must be swift about hearing, slow about speaking,” says the Bible. (James 1:19) When you converse with others, show personal interest in their feelings. Encourage them to talk about themselves. Then they will want to be with you. Conversely, if you monopolize every conversation, or constantly put yourself in the limelight, you will have a hard time finding someone who is ready to listen or who cares about your feelings and needs.
4. BE FORGIVING. A true friend is quick to overlook minor failings. To illustrate: Some do not like eating raspberries because of their little seeds. Those who enjoy this fruit, however, do not notice the seeds. True friends are loved for their fine qualities; their minor faults are overlooked. Those who learn to be forgiving keep their friends.
5. RESPECT THE PRIVACY OF OTHERS. Everyone needs some privacy, including your friends. Proverbs 25:17 wisely observes: “Make your foot rare at the house of your fellowman, that he may not have his sufficiency of you and certainly hate you.” Hence, be reasonable about the frequency and length of visits with friends. Avoid possessiveness, which can lead to jealousy. Use good judgment when expressing personal tastes and opinions on matters. This contributes to a refreshing and welcome friendship.
6. BE GENEROUS. Friendships are cultivated through generosity. For instance, share encouraging words with others. Be free with sincere commendation and upbuilding speech. When you show genuine interest in the well-being of others, they are drawn to you. Think about what you can do for them instead of focusing on what they can do for you.
yes it is odd at such a young age. older people who have families and children don't need friends, but young people do - to go out and hang out and ,eet opposite sex (in your case the same sex). no all guys like sports and stuff. also u should pretend sometimes in order to have at least companions to go out. how do u get them? u ask what they re doing on weekend. some will say they re busy, but some will also be loners and those will acept your invitation. also some are loners and are scared of everythig. those will also reject u. but believe me there re plenty of lonely people who are sitting at home like u and waiting for someone to ask them out. when i was your age i never had any problems - u just ask what are u doing the weekend and almost all of them had absolutely nothing to do. so we either went to night club or movies or whatever. i m introvert as well, but when i needed people i could easily find them because, as i already told u, lots of people are lonely
Maybe hopefully when you start a career you will have better opportunity to make friends..or you could attempt clubs or places where introverts might go..
Nah, lots of people don't have friends.