I’m eighteen years old & yes I do still with my parents as I’m at college at the moment. I’ve made a plan to move out with my friend in two years but it’s like my step dad wants me out faster. My mum is great she doesn’t mind at all. I’ve got friends that are twenty & still live with their parents I don’t think it’s so bad living with mine at this age. I’ve never got on with my step dad as we’re very different kinds of people but now he seems worse than ever.He screams at me for the littlest things like loading the dishwasher wrong (Don’t see how that’s possible) or crossing him on the stairs as if I’ve just told him to **** off or something (I’d love to do that). I really want to move out but I can’t be expected to do it right now I need to finish college first then I’ll start looking for job & then I’ll be able to move out but it’s not time yet.
What should I do about this?
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Not much you can do about it as it is him who has to change by the way you say it here.
You could try writing it all down ,positive section and negative section. Two columns about him to get it out of your head a bit.
Then one day if and when you think it's right, ask him if he is into living the truth?
If he said yes, then have a talk with him about it factually. Even give him your list or part of it.
The alternative is to keep your space and have some necessary protection in your thoughts.
He obviously wants your mum all to himself, which is selfish the way he is treating you.
Haha- this sounds exactly like me at 18. My father was the same way and I had to live with him and commute to college my first year- it was exactly like you described. I decided to take out student loans, rent a cheap room near my university and finish up my degree. Life was so much better when I got away from home, but it does take some patience to line everything up. In the meantime, try to stay out of his way as much as possible (go to libraries, friends houses, etc.)
I'm not sure what kind of relationship your mother and stepfather have...meaning if she she could talk to him and tell him to lay off of you or not...If not well your going to have a very hard time finishing college if you have to put up with him always on your back...I would tell her ow you feel and ask her to talk with him and see how it goes....As long as you are not a bother to your mom the stepfather should stay out of most things concerning you...But sadly most times they don't...Goos luck you and hang in there.
Your step dad can't do **** he can't kick you out unless he convinces your mom which i doubt he can.
Just live with them until you finish college and get paid trust me i am doing the same you save way more money living with your parents during college. Move out as soon as your done school.