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You are a very cool person. Not many would give up a freedom like that for their partner. Especially as I detect that you yourself are not deeply Christian. If you can be that willing to accept his concerns based on his faith, then you have the right formula for making a good go of your marriage. Love is something that we are in. Like a pool. If you are willing to get in deeper when the going gets a little tough then you have done your part. And that will bring about the best chance that he will get in deeper too, because he trusts your love is not based yourself, but on him.

If he is a serious Christian he will view his part as caring and adoring you as commanded by God. He already does that no doubt. But when he realises that you are loving him as well as accepting his life with God....he'll no doubt go right to the bottom of the pool and wait for you. It's getting out of the pool because you think the other one may be doing that is one of the reasons that two people who still love each other end up being estranged enough to get a divorce. All from misunderstanding and a lack of showing your love openly and often, even if that means doing things that you think aren't necessary. Such as tossing the bikinis. If you aren't a believer at all, then you are on the right track for a good marriage anyway. And I applaud your maturity in not only accepting a Christian as your life mate, but also being truly considerate of your future husband's beliefs. You are rare. Keep it up.

My wife of 30 too short years was also a true Christian. I wasn't. We had some discussions for sure...even heated ones. And six years later I found out she was right. First thing I said to her was "Why didn't you tell me that Jesus was the centre of the whole thing?". She laughed and said I was deaf before I met God, and now apparently my memory is affected. My only regret is that I wasted 6 years not knowing God while I knew her. Actually, we are so close now, that we both regret that we hadn't grown up together as well.

Good on ya, though I would have kept one bikini as God recommends that you come together as man and wife often so that your prayers are not hindered. He really is a neat God when you get to know Him. Not a fuddy, duddy at all. A bikini may come in handy when your hubby is stuck in his lazy boy watching some game on the tele. And God would approve the bikini then. :)

And I'm truly sorry most of the answers I just got to see are so unsupportive and many just plain cruel. Never mind them, do what you think is right and don't let ignorant, insensitivity guide you in any way. In fact, read them all again and i'm sure yo'll be convinced that you have chosen well to honor your future husband. Their credibility is plain to see if you look for it. This isn't a slippery slope, it's one of many, many sacrifices you will both have to make (irregardless of faith issues or not) if you are to navigate the tricky process of becoming truly one. The slippery part is what you have hopped over by showing your fiance that you love him for who he is, Christian nut bar or not. And that is real traction on the uphill climb you are about to start. And try never to expect anything in return. Freely given love is the way you make it to the top. If he loves you truly, you will have plenty of return as a by product. hahaha...listen to me!! Anne Landers eat yer heart out.

Have a good life and keep your open mind open. Oh and tell your fiance he's a very lucky fellah.

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Next he's going to want you to shave your head, and you'll do it.

A few years down the line, you will start complaining that he is so controlling, you are not allowed to go anywhere or do anything without his consent.

This is a slippery slope.

Where in the religious text does it say you shouldn't wear that kind of stuff.

As for the swim suit, that will only cause more attention on the beach. I would be thinking why is that girl wearing a mini dress for. I might even go over and ask you myself in front of him.

I would ask you out for a coffee and give you a good talking too.

Just think what normal things your children will have to give up.

Honestly I think you did the right thing. I am surprised that you aren't a Christian yourself cause only a true CHristian could understand a request like this and honor it so well.

Very impressed with your decision but I am finding it hard to believe just because even if a CHristian man would ask that and I believe he would, he just wouldn't tear them up like that. He would probably want you tot save them for the honeymoon or to prance around the house when you get married. SO a bit extreme the ripping up...

hope it wasn't the expensive designer stuff. i would never let anyone tear up my $180 bikini!!!!!! personally i think you sound like a bit of a push over, stand up for yourself, if you like wearing bikinis and would never dream of cheating on your fiancé then there is no issue. you will end up in a bad situation if you go along with everything he says without question. this isn't a big issue, but what if he asks you to something more extreme he expects you to let him walk all over you.

Why would the man you're about to marry want you to give up Bikini's? Is it so that other men will not find you attractive? Men will lust after you, no matter what you wear. If you're good looking, you're good looking.

Ah, you just want all the guys to look at you in bikini's so they can comment on how hot you look...how sad. I'm not going there.

It's admirable what you did for your fiance, but if he loved you wouldn't he respect your opinion and you could arrive at some sort of mutual decision?

I would have to see you in a bikini to give you a fair and impartial answer to that..

Your bf is a pig. You're at the beginning of a long, sick, abusive, controlling relationship.