It doesn't matter if the girl has any tendecies like your mom just don't be like your dad if your love the girl stay with her. I don't want to be like my father either so I won't. I won't lie. I won't drink. And I'm kind and I'm not selfish. It doesn't matter about the other person it matters about you. And whatever it was about your dad that you didn't like or did you you have to forgive him to move on with your life. I've been in therepy for years because my dad was an abusive alcoholic and what I've learned is that you can't let them dictate your life but live it. Be yourself and not them and yourself is not them because you are you they were them. And your children will not feel that way because now you know how NOT to be a parent.

Simple, don't be like him. Past is past; you control YOUR life. A lot of things are simply mental power. If you will yourself and believe strongly enough to not be like your dad, then you won't. And don't dump somebody that is like your mother. Do you love her? Is she a great mom? Why would you dump somebody who is a great woman? If you know what you don't want to become, all you have to do is have enough mental power to not become it. It seems hard and times may be rough but don't worry, you'll push through them and become YOU, not somebody else (:

instead of sitting here and talking about the difference between you and your father, you should do everything in the difference way.

yeah, break the mold, be yourself

you aint got to follow your pa in his footsteps./