Occasionally I’ll see a man and his wife at the gym I go to working out together. I have never spoken to them but I assume they are married, they appear to come into the gym together and leave together when I see them. Well tonight at the gym, the man wasn’t there but his wife was at the gym near closing time and she was talking to this random guy flirting with him on the cardio machines. I thought it was weird because I thought she was married to the guy I usually see her with. So I saw them leave together and I left at the same time they both left together and I got in my car and the man got into her car and I was parked right behind her and sat there and watched for a little bit (call me creepy I don’t care, just looking out for this guy and trying to find evidence of her cheating on him) and I saw the man kissing her in her car and being playful and flirty with each other. Should I tell the husband when I see him at the gym next?
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Noooo … you don't actually know the circumstances or what is really going on with these people. Some people do not want to know and will get mad at the person who tells them …. plus - if you told him he might actually do harm to them. If she is a cheater -- he will probably catch her himself sooner or later.
Its a very wise man who knows when and how to mind his own business. You don't know the reason why the observed activity was taking place, and in any case , any comment is not going to do your relationship any good at all with any of the people concerned. Try putting yourself in the other persons shoes, and see how you would feel about some interfering busy-body.
It's none of your business. Why would you go running to tell the husband? Are you the FBI or something?
Why would you want to get in the middle of someone else's marriage when you know nothing about what's going on? You know nothing about them or their marriage. Mind your own business.
I think you need a life rather than assume things about other people's relationships. Your post had words like:
I assume they are married
They appear to.....
Random guy.....
I thought.....
I usually....
call me creepy....
Man, you KNOW nothing about these people.
MIND your own business and stop wanting to meddle in other people's lives.
More than half of all married people have sex with other people. Are you going to follow everybody around to see who they're having sex with?
No, it’s not your business
You don't know who they are, or what they are doing.
Stay out of it.
sour grapes
No, it's not your business. He'll find out eventually, or maybe he doesn't want to know. He might be getting some on the side too.