I’m a rising junior in college. I got out of a nearly 3 year relationship just over a year and a half ago. Since then I’ve been trying to find the right guy that aligns with my morals and interests, without setting my expectations too high as I’m looking for a guy to grow with. I’m not about hooking up or anything, I look for passion. During this time I went through so many different types of guys, from the average f*ck boy to the one who just wasn’t ready or confused about what he wanted. I also took time to realize who I was and what I truly wanted, and to build my confidence without needing a guys help. I’ve always been a strong willed person, and I took time to really relax and figure out what is it do I need? Learning how to be content with being alone. However I still get lonely, and I’m tired of going through a constant cycle of guys who just aren’t ready or wasting my time. What should I do?
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Try changing where you meet these guys. My dad always told me, "Meet a woman in a bar, leave a woman in a bar." I extend it to both sexes, and the place doesn't have to be a bar, but the point stands. You say you're not about hooking up, but that's exactly what you're doing. If I rob a bunch of banks and then say, "I'm not about robbing banks," then that would be utter nonsense.
Develop interests and join groups that promote those interests. Maybe you'll meet someone, maybe not. Nobody can predict the future, but you'll have a better shot of finding someone you like if you have some sort of common ground to start from.