Don't change just because he doesn't like it. Kick him to the curb and be happy with the way you look :)

I'm the same way as you, I don't overeat I actually eat less than what my family does.

I also don't have any medical issues like that one user rudely suggested that us bigger girls MUST have because we weigh more than a 'normal' size girl.

My weight just suits my body type and I don't give a flying F about what society views me as :)

Also, bigger girls and boys don't always mean that the person is obese, everyone has different body types

I would say thank you now get out !!!

"How would you feel if your husband/boyfriend told you that you’re over weight?" - If I was overweight, I'd let them know I was aware of that situation and how odd it was for them to feel the need to tell me, as if I wasn't aware. If I wasn't overweight, I'd correct their inaccuracy and explain to them what the healthy weight range for someone my height was. Some people just need a little education.

"I’ve always been over weight " - Then you've either got a medical condition which you don't mention, or you've always consumed more calories than your body needs.

" I don’t over eat that’s not my problem . It’s just my body type" - People aren't overweight for no reason. They're overweight because they consume more calories than their body needs, so the excess is stored as fat. Either that, or there's a thyroid issue or some other health issue that causes problems with their hormones, which makes weight gain easy and/or fat loss difficult. You don't mention a health issue, so you are overweight because you consume too many calories (I've been obese myself, I know how it works).

What's the point in being hurt? If you're content being overweight and he doesn't like it, then you tell him that what he sees is what he gets, and if he's not okay with you being overweight and possibly continuing to gain weight over time, then you two aren't a good match. You have the right to be heavy if you choose. He has the right to not find it attractive (just as you'd have the right not to find a man of a particular weight attractive).

Your boyfriend sounds like an idiot. If he is so bent out of shape about your weight you should kick him to the curb. It's been 4 years...if this is his problem, he will never change.

If they are serious about it, you have to think of reducing weight. Reduce your calorie intake and go for regular exercise.

Exercise is a great way to keep us strong and our body toned. Everyone needs exercise, and i don't think that a person who goes to the gym needs to be criticized. That's just rude.

Weight loss is 80% about what we are eating, 20% about exercise.

Weight loss surgery is extreme and a last resort, so for your boyfriend to think it's a reasonable thing is worrying. If he really was concerned he'd suggest he accompany you in your exercise program. Instead it sounds like he doesn't want to involved in any health endeavour of yours, while criticizing you in this unengaged way. Like, get a surgeon to deal with it, and not him.

How is this boyfriend actually engaged in your life and interests? Is he really interested in you, and not just someone he has sex with?

Anyway, this is your body, your health, not his and you should listen to what you actually want.

Leave the guy he's very cruel to you and you sound like a good person that will meet another good person that will love you for who you are

I would dump him lol he's not worried about you being over weight for health reasons, he's purely just worrying about looks and if he truly loves you he wouldn't care about your weight. Also I bet if you said the things that you found unattractive about him he'd get pissed OR just wouldn't fix them.

if all he cares about you is your looks, maybe he's not the one for you. with the right diet and exercise, anyone can lose weight. for some people, it does take a year or longer to see relevant change. consistency and patience is key for weight loss. have him work out with you and diet with you. join weight watchers. get a personal trainer.