My fiancé works for a delivery company and he has a friend he met there. They always have each others backs, and this friend has done a lot for "us." However, I found out from a friend of mine that they deliver to that this guy has bad mouthed me in the worst way and said very nasty things about me and how I am not good enough for my fiancé. My fiancé always wants to bring this guy over and doesn't get why I can't reconcile with him. He thinks I am ungrateful. Am I? I wish I didn't hate him so much, but how can I deal with or trust someone who goes behind my back in a professional setting and bad mouths me to my own friends? I understand why my fiancé will not start an argument with this person, but I don't feel like he should be forced on me.
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Mmm is he into your fiancé ?
I'd have a talk with the fiance. Tell him you've heard from other drivers at his company that this guy has been saying some untrue and unkind things about you--ask him if he's heard about this. If he hasn't, tell him to ask (whatever the name of your source(s) is). If he has heard this, or worse, if he's actually heard the guy bad mouth you, then ask your fiance why in the world he wants to be friends with a guy who tears down his own fiance, why in the world would he (your fiance) want to socialize with this kind of guy, what for the love of God would he want you to socialize with a guy who seems to want to tear you two apart. Since the guy doesn't know you, ask your fiance why this guy feels he has the right to say bad things about you. And let your fiance know that as your fiance he needs to either defend you when some nobody belittles you, or if he can't do that, at least not become friends with him. Maybe you also need to ask your fiance what in hell is going on inside of his head--doesn't your fiance respect you (doesn't sound like it)?
Your fiancé should be defending you, not taking his crap and blaming the problem on you. Are you really supposed to be grateful to an idiot that badmouths you that way? Tell your fiancé that he is not welcome in your home, and that if he won't tell him why, then you certainly will. And if that your fiancé invites him over anyway, you WILL have a "little talk" with him about his mouth-running.
You have every right to stick up for yourself. Please don't let your fiancé bully you into keeping your mouth shut! Besides, if you let this guy do it then that only shows your fiancé that it's okay for him to do it too.
This is a red flag about your marriage. This is more about your fiance than this guy. Be very observant about your fiance's allegiance to you. I would worry!