My wife is trying to be a minimalist and not be such a packrat like me so every since our children were born as soon as they don’t fit something she either sold it on Ebay or gave it away. I had to persuade her to hold on to a few pieces that I really liked for sentimental value. Her thought is they are just clothes she rather have pictures and scrapbook for the memories. We recently moved and as we are not having anymore children for sure she got rid of everything. There were d more than 15 trash bags full of clothes that went to charity and that is just the ones I convinced her to keep. So as of now we have nothing but their first shoes left from the infant stage.
Update:Nona do like my wife does get rid of them in screte. I am the same way left to me we would have everything. She got rid of so many things without me knowing. Her friend came and got them and took them to chairties. Sometimes I helped pack a bag of our things then before I could take it she slipped things in there
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Hubby is the opposite. He won't let me get rid of ANYTHING. We have about 25 containers of clothes (no joke) and it's driving me nuts. We do have 3 kids and most things have been shared...but some things were hand-me-downs for my first who is now 7. And those were well over 5-10 yrs old when we got them...so the clothes we're keeping are almost 20 yrs old now. It drives me BATTY!!
He's a border-line hoarder and it's killing me!! He has most of his childhood toys AND clothes as well.
HELP ME!!
Without a vet check (urinalysis done right there at the office) you don't know if she's got an infection or not. Cats with a UTI are in pain when they pee so the last place they do it is in the litter box, they associate the box with causing the pain. They instead look for soft things to pee on. Rule the UTI out first. Antibiotics or acidifiers are the way to clear the problem up, not just hoping the behavior will stop. Stress levels will trigger a UTI, so she's still a candidate for having the infection. Having the kids put their clothing in a covered hamper can help a lot. As will closing doors to rooms that cat favors for using. Stress is hard on cats, often behavior is the only way they have to indicate to the people they live with that they don't feel ok about something or are hurting. Working with the vet to see what the cause is is the first step. If it is 100% behavior caused by stress, and you can't find a way to help the cat deal, I've known some people who use an old rag shirt stuck in a low sided box with plastic underneath and have that as a decoy place for the cat to use.
While i understand you wanting to keep some items, 15 bags is too many "sentimental items." A few cute outfits from each stage would have been ok, and i think it would have been nice for your wife to compromise with you. Just because she is ok with having just pictures, doesn't mean you are. I am like you, i want to save a few items. Actually, right now i haven't gotten rid of anything since we're planning another child. After we are done having kids, i'll go through and pick out some choice items to keep. I guess what's done is done, she threw them all out, what can you do...sadly.
EDIT: My Grandma saved a few items from when i was little and i love looking at them, and it always gave her a chance to tell stories and reminisce. I wish my mom would have done the same. I plan to share the sentimental items with my children someday. It is not the same as looking at a picture.
There will definitely be a few items I will keep forever. It will be hard to choose them, when the time comes to get rid of a lot of it (which probably won't be until I am completely done having children)...I guess I will decide based on which items have a special memory attached to them, and not just which ones I look at and think, "Awww, she looked so cute in this!" Because that's everything. lol
Donated everything, except a hat and socks from my girl and a onesie from my boy. I also kept their first favorite book. I take lots of pictures and store on the computer. I'm a minimalist so this works for me.
It makes me feel good to donate, I can't offer lots of money to charity, but others do appreciate clothes.
Clothes can get like school papers, do you keep it all or just scan a few of the favorites to the computer?
I don't hold sentimental value to things like that. I got rid of everything. My mom grabbed up the outfits I brought my girls home in and kept them before I could donate. My kids each have a small box that I kept things for them, in case they want it or whatever to compare to their babies stuff when they grow up. Like first bikinis, first baby rattler etc. I'm so not a pack-rat.
You don't need to keep the baby clothes for memories. seriously, how often do you plan on taking them out just to look at them. They are much better served by children who are less fortunate and in need of clothing. Its the pictures of your little ones in the clothes that you will cherish...with the adorable little expressions on their face. Have your wife sell them on ebay so she can buy a few nice scrapbook albums and supplies and have fun with her making your memories even more beautiful.
I sound more like your wife honestly. The only thing we keep is their lovies, a hand made blanket for each, and each a tshirt that has the name of the hospital they were born at. Which is small enough to glue onto a page of their baby books.
I have tons of bags full of clothes in our attic. My daughter is 3.5 and I still have all the clothes, shoes, toys that she has ever used. We aren't 100% sure if we are done having kids, so I'm keeping them in case.
Some things I will definitely keep forever.
I have the outfits the babies came home from the hospital in...my daughter's first dress. My son's first suit. And one or 2 other special items. All else has been handed down to friends and family.