I’ve been in an interracial relationship for about 8 months now. He’s Black (age 26) and I am White (age 20) . We tried to go about it the right way. He wanted to meet my mother .. so he did. Then the next couple of weeks rolled around and he wanted to take me out to dinner and a movie .. and she flipped out. So, since that night back at least 6 months ago when she denied me seeing him .. we’ve kept us hidden from my mother until a month ago when she found out that I had been hiding him and I for so long.
So, now that she knows .. she’s told the rest of my family .. so they would know and they would tell me there views .. you need to know that I live in a part of Ohio that for the most part I feel is in the middle to the excepting of the whole interracial dating thing. My whole family I know isn’t a huge fan of the idea of me dating a black guy. He’s offered to meet with them and talk to them .. but they just wont let it happen. I want them to try and except this I really do because him and I mean a lot to the other one.
So, if anyone has been in this situation that I’m in .. where there family was against there relationship because of the race of the other person .. tell me how you delt with it. Because I really feel like I’m in this place where I don’t know if I should just give in to them .. or just be like I’m happy and you guys should be happy .. that I’m not with the last *** of guy that I dated.
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I feel great about it! I really don't mind interracial dating. I think its beautiful when people can express their feelings and not bow to the status que placed on us by society. People forget and so it seems, there isn't what they would describe a "problem" with this situation, They choose not to address it, well the "problem" is people being color blind, to the specifics of the word, BLIND TO THE COLORS AROUND YOU. They are unwilling to accept them and hence they are not there or you are blind to them. I don't believe in color blindness, its ignorance, it needs to change, be aware of the wonderous variety around you and accept it. I Think its extremly interesting to learn about other people's ways of life. I think its really sad that people of any race can simply 'dis' others becuase they are of any color.
hey, that's bull$hit!!! you 20 years old!! a full grown women and i know that you love your family but girl, this is just one of those time that you just have to say "mind your own business and stay out of mine!". you have to. i have been in a situation kind of the same but with age. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 24. we have been together for 3 and a half years and my whole family had a problem with it till i finally had enough and told them to except him because he is a part of me now and that means a part of our family. they don't say anything about it now. your family wont stop loving you if you do the same. trust someone that been through it like me. it will work.
Personally I think it is cool that you are dating him. He is human just like the rest of us. Get your family to see the things that you all have the same. Not what is different. After all the only thing that should matter is you are happy.
I married a white guy against my familys wishes and it has tore me apart from my family my sister is the only one who will speak to me and it has been almost a year
well in all honesty if you are happy and don't mind being black balled (no punn intended ) by your family then more power to you. Personally for me it isn't my thing but to each is own