How do I respond when my fiancé tells me four months before the wedding day that he's afraid of marriage?
Everything is set in place, we have been together for 3years. He freaked out when we were about to move in together two years ago and after that he promised me anytime he had doubts we would work on them together. Now so close to the wedding he is saying he scared to get married. I'm devastated. He is scared I will leave him, but how do I respond? Do I keep taking care of wedding details and hope he comes to his senses or what? I asked him when he first proposed if it was something he truely wanted, because I knew he has commitment issues. He said he was excited to Mary me and felt no doubts. Yet here we are now. What do I say or do?
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This is common. Even guys (and girls!) who don't have commitment problems will find themselves getting nervous as the wedding date gets nearer. It's a sign of how important it is to them. People who don't take marriage seriously don't worry beforehand, thinking they can always get a divorce.
I know it hurts to hear he's scared but that doesn't mean he doesn't want to marry you, just that he is afraid of getting hurt. He loves you so much but doesn't think he deserves you. He thinks he's marrying out of his league. (Most guys do). And so you'll leave him for someone better than him. Just tell him you love him, will never leave him and really want to marry him. And carry on with the wedding details. If it was me, I'd also offer to cancel the wedding butI have to warn you that most guys will take that as a sign that you don't want to marry them. But I'm the kind of girl that needs reassuring that my guy knows he has a choice.