How do I get my fiancé to not be controlled by her family. She is 32 and her family controld her?
She puts way too much stock in what they think and the decisions she makes. It's sad because they make her feel bad and it pisses me off so bad. Please give some advice on how to discuss this with her. I've tried in the past and she's agreed with me but it was only short lived. I would really like to have something a little more permanent as I want to spend the rest of my life with her.
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Keep putting her in positions where you encourage her to critically think and make her own decisions and aim to slowly encourage her to do this independently of her family only bit by bit as she grows more confident that she has a chance of breaking away mentally, at the moment she has probably controlled to the point she is terrified of doing anything without their say so which is usually how control works, its brainwashing and usually the cost means sacrificing the adult in you and submitting to complete control that makes her family feel they are still relevant and important its tricky stuff.
IDK, Jst sit her down and talk to her like she is a child, It Tell her yall are grown and make ur own decisions.Tell her that if yall are gonna be married it gotta be yalls desion as one together without outside influence & u want to know that, thats the way its going to be b4 u marry her.