So I keep talking and flirting with her, and then I asked her out. She said she had other plans (she said what those plans were, I'm just not saying cuz nobody cares), but should I believe her? I was really sad. I looked up on the internet what it said for how to get a girl to like you, and go out with you, and to my surprise, I had basically done all of their steps! I felt proud, but confused… because she doesn't like me! Well, she might, but I have no idea. Also, I have asked for her number twice, both times she somehow started talking about something else so she couldn't hear me. Is that some coincidence, or is she trying to avoid me?
I realize I probably have no chance with her, but I just can't accept that. I will keep trying, foolishly; I can't just not like her anymore. We actually have a lot in common. We play the same instrument, love music (haha we are bandys), we are christian, and awesome! So can someone please help?
Update:After the day she sort of rejected me, I kept talking to her, I sounded kind of sad, but she did not act like anything was awkward. I think she just wants to slow things down, or she just doesn't want me. I asked her to a concert on Saturday, I asked her on Monday. My friend told me to try again on Friday. I might, I will tell her the importance of this concert, it happens once about every 4 years, and the thing she is supposedly going to do she can see many other days. Is this a good idea? Or am I being an idiot again?
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I know someone that was exactly in the same situation as yourself and i will tell you what i told him. Leave it. Let it breath. I understand you like her but by the way you describe it, it seems that she is trying to cool the relationship whilst you keep pushing it. Don't get me wrong sometimes perseverance is neccessary but just take a step back, if she messages you don't seem to eager keep calm and answer 3-4 minutes later the "elastic band effect" if you will. You seem like a great guy so if she messes you around anymore then look elsewhere, the feelings will slowly but surely dull down and you will find someone who appreciates your loving attention.
Girls ask "Girls Only questions" so they can see how other girls would handle the situation! Let's say a girl asks how she can get over herself after the most cutest awesomest guy breaks up with her. Some guys might say she's a weirdo, while girls know what she's going threw! They put 'girls only' because other girls most likely know what they're going threw! Tell me how many guys you know that know about woman's health and embarresment caused by it! Also, girls might have a question that might embarress them if a guy sees it! Hope I helped!!! :-D
You can say and do all the right things but if a girl is just not into u then she's going to reject u just leave it he for a few days or weeks
You sound like a healthy guy doing what you do. Just don't ask so often. Give her some thinking space. She may not be ready that's all. Time is really on your side.
you need to spend a considerably long time with her as a friend, so that she can really trust you, know you well, and maybe then if she likes you, she may add you in her plans.... also a girl never likes a guy who keeps asking her out, you need to make your presence felt.
good luck :)
This one seems like she may have had other plans or is unsure about her feelings for you. Tray again on a different day.
I'd say she's not interested. Move on. I know it's hard to do and it's easier said than done but if she's not interested then what's the point honestly...
Have you considered that just because you followed some steps it doesn't mean she's going to like you?
Move on the more you like her the more she dislikes you girls dont like determine guys like you find another christian girl like her i hate to say it move on
just give up on her she sounds rude and doesn't want to go out with you there is a lot of girls out there so don't just put your mind set on one