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When you find yourself disagreeing with him, or arguing, take 3 deep breaths and then think through the situation. Yelling and getting upset over the small things should not be happening, nor should they bother you that much. Compromises always have to happen in a relationship. Tell him you're sorry for getting upset all the time, and that you'll work on it, then, WORK ON IT. Find ways to help yourself calm down, or before you talk to him, make sure you're in a good mood to begin with. Weddings bring a lot of pressures. If you can make it through the stress of planning the wedding, you'll be able to make it through the stress of being married. You have to talk and work everything out and neither of you can always be "right." Remember that too.

Best of luck to you both, congrats as well!

This is Easily fixable. HOWEVER, pre-wedding jitters are very intense!

Get the book "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" from Amazon.com

http://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marr...

Inside that book is a section on "Fair Fighting". A part of that section says that if you and your partner are discussing some disagreement, then you have to take a Time-Out whenever (1) either of you uses sarcasm or becomes nasty, (2) either of your voices becomes loud, (3) either of you stops remembering that your love for your partner far transcends the importance of this disagreement, (4) other things (see the book). This book is by our top relationship expert.

As the groom, your husband needs something to do (other than drooling in anticipation of his bachelor party). Have him read this book, and the books:

"His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage"

http://www.amazon.com/His-Needs-Her-Building-Affai...

"The Five Love Languages"

http://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-That-L...

You can also get the book:

"The Everything Bachelorette Party: Throw a Party That ..."

http://www.amazon.com/Everything-Bachelorette-Part...

P.S. -- About the Bachelor Party -- Have your Maid of Honor contact the Best Man, and lay down some firm rules. Just saying.

ADDENDA: Relationships need Communication, Compassion and Compromise. Marriages, after the "infatuation period" of a few month to a couple of years, need common goals and common interests -- However, you can keep your marriage in the Infatuation Phase by keeping yourself fresh and interesting and getting out often enough by yourself to be able to do so.

you need to work out if this is the stress and trials of preparing for the wedding taking its toll or if you guys are clinging onto a relationship that really isnt going to work and getting swept along BECAUSE of the wedding

what worries me is you said

"We love each other a lot and always talk about working things out to improve our relationship because we're making a big commitment to each other and things would be good for a week and then things go back to the way they were"

what else realistically CAN you do??

you ARE working on it, bu its just not working out

sometimes you have to accept love isnt enough, no matter how much you want it to be

You're both getting stressed out at the up coming wedding, it's natrural & should go back to normal after 'The Big Day'

u didn´t write what about u re arguing. but arguing all the time is not normal. i do not know what u consider perfect relationship, but perfect or not - arguing all the time is not normal. there is something seriously wrong between 2 of u

Maybe u are selfish enough (both of you) or you dont know how to communicate?? whatecer it is rty to solve it because after marriage u r going to face bigger issues with babies and so on...

I predict a divorce in your future

two strips of duct tape...