I am a first time mother with a 10 month old, exclusively pumping and supplementing with formula at this point (breastfeeding did not work out). First of all neither my husband nor his family thinks that me pumping is worth it - they always call it dumb and stupid (they raised their kids on formula only), but I know the health benefits and just wish I had their support. Second of all, I am sick of everyone telling me my baby is spoiled. I always let her fuss, but do not believe in letting her cry it out because I have heard that it raises blood pressure and cortisol levels and is just not good for them. Even my pediatrician backed me up on this… but still, my husband and I argue all of the time and my family constantly reminds me of "just how spoiled" my little on is. I feel horrible and have no one on my side and quite frankly, am sick of fighting. I have done a lot of reading and research and feel that my parenting skills are up to date and just fine. We go to parent child classes and she goes to a kids club when I work (part time), so she is not sheltered or constantly around just me. I feel like its definitely taking a toll on my marriage, so any advice would be so helpful…. books? family counseling maybe? I am desperate.
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First, boot out the family from your life, their unwanted and unneeded interference is draining. Second, tell your Husband this is the way you're raising your baby and that he needs to step up if all he is doing is complaining (You haven't said what your husband does).
you are going to could be blunt approximately it. develop in a extreme-high quality way that no longer each and all and sundry interior the family participants contributes and that it is not honest. enable them to comprehend which you would be able to initiate saving money so which you would be able to start on a family participants -- or despite. they could appreciate your husband as nicely. If it have been any incorrect way, i'm confident your loved ones might whinge approximately his family participants in the event that they have been consistently bothering him for money. and that may no longer even the factor, you are able to desire to risk-free for your self. in the event that they actually love you, they'll recover from it. regrettably there are various family participants participants who take great thing approximately different family participants participants. i'm confident you will experience very responsible (it fairly is well-known), yet you're able to do what you're able to do. family participants does not placed responsibilities on others. you are able to help, yet such as you mentioned, $20 right here, $20 there, all of it provides up. perhaps you are able to set X-volume of money on the element each and each month and basically decrease it to that. it fairly is $20 a month. you're nonetheless contributing and you're actually not being taken great thing approximately. in the event that they ***** approximately that, then you certainly comprehend what fairly concerns to them, regrettably.
Tell them to kiss off
Tell them to mind their own business.Its your child raise her/him anyway you wish and tell your husband and family that too they raised theirs?well your raiseing yours