I’m pregnant to a guy, who I find very intimidating,and can be quite aggresive at times.
I was a little confused when we were having intercourse, as it was quite late at night and we had been drinking. He didn’t wear a condom and he came in me. Later that night he asked me whether I was on the pill, I said yes because I was scared he would hurt me in some way, and thought I’d just deal with whatever I have to if it came to that.
He decided he didn’t want anything to do with me, and I decided to come clean knowing I was pregnant, just so that he knew. Now, he’s threating to take me to court if I don’t have an abortion, saying I’m entraping him, even though here in Australia that legal term doesn’t really apply, especially to pregnancies., and even though I’m not asking him to stick by me, or have anything to do with me.
What can I do in this situation? I know I’ve done something wrong, but I’m a grown adult and so is he.
Should I even hire a lawyer at this stage?
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We say that anyone can sue anyone for anything. But that isn't exactly true. You can only sue for things the law says are torts. Entrapment is not a tort. Entrapment is a defense against a criminal prosecution. If an undercover cop convinces you to commit a crime that you would not normally have committed, that is entrapment, and you claim that as a defense.
The police can entrap someone. You cannot entrap someone, and there is no tort of entrapment, which means that if he files a suit with the court claiming entrapment, the court will refuse the filing.
However, he wants to cause you trouble. If he makes any threats or harasses you, report it to the police.
He cannot sue you for entrapment, that is just an empty desperate threat. Go ahead and have your baby. You can do it. Don't give in to his demands Yes you could consult with a lawyer to make sure he cannot give you trouble but I do not see what case he would have at all.
Abortion really would be wrong and a huge mistake. Abortions can indeed sometimes give physical complications and problems with future pregnancies such as miscarriages being more likely. Common side effects (which can last up to two months) can include abdominal pain, nausea, vomiting, diarrhea and bleeding.
A lot of real guilt and shame often can come with an abortion. Perhaps it is for this reason that many relationships end not too long after an abortion is done.
The other day a girl on Yahoo Answers commented that she could not stop crying ever since she had her abortion.
Someone else shared, “My sister had an abortion at 21 and she said it haunts her and she has dreams of a three yr old boy! (it’s been three yrs).”
And another said, “I had the procedure done two days ago and i regret it deeply. I just keep crying and want the baby back. I just keep having all these what if thoughts about the fetus I aborted and i just feel horrible. I should of kept it and now i just don’t know how to cope with the decision I made.”
Someone else posted, “ I have a lot of guilt and regret about the abortion... I wanted it, but felt like I didn't have another option. That I took the easy way out because I didn't have the guts to stand up to everyone and do it on my own.”
One girl who was pressured by her boyfriend to get an abortion shared, “I did get the abortion and have been crushed that I went through with it. I had no support after. He stayed with me for a few hours after but I never heard from him again. I got rid of my baby and I haven't been able to forgive myself even though it was so easy for him to not care. I still cry to this day.”
And another girl on Yahoo Answers recently wrote, "I was 9 weeks pregnant and had an abortion a couple of days ago. I had a medical abortion where they brought on a miscarriage and I had to use toilet pans when I needed the toilet so they could examine everything. I saw the tiny fetus just laying there perhaps just over an inch long. It actually broke my heart and it's been haunting me with regret ever since. My boyfriend came in the room because I screamed and he saw it as well and he's been extremely sad about it.”
But you can avoid all this pain and heartbreak. By having your child it is no small aspect that you can go for the rest of your life knowing that you gave that child the chance to live out his or her life. The life of that child in you is more important than any life plans you may have which could be delayed but also could still go on nevertheless.
You can look at adoption if you really think you would not want to raise a child at this time. There are millions of good couples waiting years to adopt. All the best....
Sure, but he won't win anything. Anyone can sue anyone for anything. No judge will force you to have an abortion just because he wants you to have one.
He doesn't even know what entrapment means.
Your first concern should be for the life inside you. That is your first obligation.
he cannot sue you not having an abortion that is laughable. he is the one who drop his clothing onto the floor as well as you! you both need to take responsibility for your actions
maybe you should of told him to put a condom so that was really your fault Maybe both of you should of got to know each other before jumping into bed together!
There might be some issue if you demanded child support and he said no, but you could weasel out it. If you completely separate you and the baby for him there's nothing to prosecute