I bought a guitar my boyfriend loved as a surprise birthday present 7 months before his birthday (I bought the last one like 15 minutes before he tried). A month before his birthday he told me – a month before my lease was up - he wanted to wait on moving in. So I had about a month to find a new apartment. Then we took a break and I found out he was lying to me about random stuff. So by the time his birthday came around I didn’t want to give him the guitar – I didn’t think he deserved it. I kept it under my bed and got him a professional massage instead, which he loved. I was getting ready to break up with him because he had half naked pictures of girls he knew on his phone, lied to me, was being shady and I found out he was still talking to the girl he hooked up with during our break (we were on a break, don’t really care that he hooked up with someone but very pissed that he still talks to her). I’m not going to lie; I showed him the guitar as a last minute F--- You….. I wanted him to hurt as much as he had hurt me and looks like it worked. Any ways, he still wants to work things out but I’m not giving him the guitar. So now there is tension of him being impressed that I took care of myself first instead of him, the amazement that the last guitar is sitting on my dining room floor and everything else. On top of all of this his I kinda told off his friend because my boyfriend doesn’t talk about anything to any one so no one knows our drama and his friend just assumed I was a, for lack of a better word, bad girlfriend. Before the break my boyfriend's friend would text me every few days to see how things were and after the break not two words…. Everything just seems so messed up that I know if its worth it…. I’m happy I stood up for myself to my boyfriend and his friend but I can’t figure out what this negative feeling is in my gut. i want things to work out - I have known by boyfriend for ten years (we have been dating for 1 year) and this is the normal BS he goes threw before things get "Normal"... so i don't want to give up but i kinda do.... i'll loose my best friend if i don't try.
Update:Am i a bad person for showing him the guitar? Why do i feel guilty?
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sounds like your heart is trying to tell you to give him a chance to fix things with you. be patient and understanding but don't accept anything less than the truth, you deserve it. It kinda sounds like you think he might just wanna patch things up to get the guitar though. You should know him well enough to know if that's true or just how you feel because you are upset. Good luck and don't give in, the guitar should be off the table if you stay together OR go your separate ways.
Good for you! Standing up for yourself! Now give the looser the boot. But first, sell the guitar. Let him know, you sold it first. THEN give him the boot. Keep him as a friend if you feel you need to (I wouldn't) but, for Gods sake girl, get a real man. You don't have to stand up for yourself to a real man, The real man will stand up FOR you, not TO you. This little boy, is a self centered sponge, that will ride you for as long as he can. Then. he will toss you aside for a new ride without batting an eye. Why don't you give him the same respect that he shows you, which is none?
It's not "normal" to have BS in a relationship, but this is not a relationship, If it was, you wouldn't feel bad about it. You deserve to feel good about yourself. Being with a person, (GF,BF, "Just friends", whatever,) should not make you feel bad about yourself.
Oh, and BTW,
I pay for all of my own guitars. Even the expensive ones. All good musicians either have a day job to pay for their equipment, or make enough money playing to buy their new equipment.
You might be loosing this guy out of your life, but is that really such a bad thing? I mean really?
You fought, now yes find a way to make up like they did back in the day before the internet . The day when we had real couples with real balls and real vaginas.
Just dont let him hurt you, if he keeps hurting you and wont stop when you ask him to in your many ways dump his *** because in todays world we have **** crap men.
Hahahaha sounds like you need to let your man know who you want. And let the other guys know who you want too. Being flirty with the wrong guys always comes back to haunt you.
drop the looser...send me the guitar...when he grows a little try dating then...but really...send me the guitar...haha I'll love it promise!
dump him and give me the guitar