Hey everyone! I’m a 20 year old female and I was just wondering if I could have some opinions on if my parents are still being to strict with me. I’m a straight A student studying neuroscience I’m not sure if that makes any difference
1. My mom and dad refuse to let me spend the night at my boyfriends or let him spend the night here
2. My mom hates me driving anywhere if it’s not necessary. She’ll always ask why I’m the friend of gets stuck driving or why I always have to go to everyone else and why ppl can’t come to me. I pay for my own gas. It just feels like she’s trying to keep me in some sort of bubble
3. I have no doors on my room
4. I still have to ask permission before going anywhere and still have a curfew of midnight
There’s a lot of other things but these are the main ones. If anyone could please give some advice on this. I have spoken with them numerous times. I am living at home to save money for the day I want to move out but my parents still say while I’m under their roof it’s their rules and I understand that. It’s just upsetting and frustrating when I see all my friends having so much more freedom and not being bubbled like me
Answers & Comments
The lack of a door on your room is odd and an invasion of privacy. Other than that, I think they’re just trying to protect you.
Perhaps there is a lack of trust that they have with you and have set their restrictions as so.
They have no right to deny you spending a night there. You're an adult and can do what you want sexually. After 18, your parents have no legal control in that respect.
You're living at home with your parents it's understandable. If you don't like it get your own place. But it is nice of you to abide by their rules while you're there and honestly you're better off and you should continue the guidelines when you leave.
I understand your frustration.
In the current situation with Covid 19 you would be wise to restrict your travel, but naturally you wish to meet your friends.....especially your boyfriend.
But there is much you can do before midnight!
Why not encourage your friends to visit?
Get a place of your own
maybe you should move out
Well, first of all what girl has a boyfriend spend the night at her parents' house. Oh a know, a ****.
No door on your room is abusive my dear.
You had better start making boundaries or your married life will be hell
Get an apt ASAP...you can always go back to school once you have your own “life”
Update:
You working full time, and you are a full time uni student is hard to believe. When I was in college I was given a lot of work to do. I didn't have time to goof off like you do!
I think you should take advantage of the good opportunity you have right now. Your parents are giving you shelter, but I think you can use your time better.
Regarding me I thought of some ideas of how I might be able to get work, and this is something you are going to have to do as well during, or after you finish school. There are a lot of people who are struggling to find work, and it seems to me this has not crossed your mind.
Your parents won't financially support you forever, so you might be put in a position where you are going to have to fend for yourself.
Since it's not about the money, ask your mom about the driving issue.
Aside from not having doors on your room, the other things are probably them trying to protect you, because they want the best for you. You're smart and you have a good future ahead of you and they don't want anything to derail that.
Hi Lia. So it's just more of them being protective of you. See if you can negotiate with them for a bit more freedoms. If that doesn't work out, you won't be living there forever. Knowing that should help a bit.