Why won’t my boyfriend marry me ?
April 2020 makes 4 whole years we’ve been together we have a 3 year old daughter and he wants another child we all live together I work he works we’ve been living as a married couple without any proposal he doesn’t even like to talk about it he’s 4 years younger than me Plz I need help am I wasting my time
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well..... i found that not putting out makes guys a lot more likely to propose.... just a thought
If you want to marry him, propose to him!
you have a VERY smart man....I'll bet millions of men would trade their legal "wifey" for a girlfriend like you. Western females are not suitable for marrying, it is a waste of HIS time to put a ring on it.
You know what the difference is between what you have now and a marriage? It is literally just a piece of paper. That's IT!
Are you wasting your time? That depends. Are you willing to throw your life away just to get a piece of paper that "proves" you are married?
Now the problem. Until you have been married and divorced again....
You will not realize that what I'm saying is true. So sadly, you will convince yourself that the piece of paper is way more important to you than your family. Because you have created a family. You have the man, the woman, the child, planning another child. YOU HAVE A FAMILY. If you two got married, then you would have a piece of paper that makes the family a formal arrangement. But here's the deal...your relationship is no more OR less likely to succeed if you do make it formal. You are no more OR less likely to have your family fall apart if the two of you are married.
You need to make your own decision whether marriage is absolutely necessary or not. But if you have to force your boyfriend into it, you'd better stop and think about your family first. Is it worth risking your family to get that piece of paper?
Because I can tell you with 100% certainty that 10 or 20 years from now, you will look back and realize that marriage is JUST a piece of paper. Nothing else...
Note for the slow among us...I am not saying that marriage is just a piece of paper. But compared to what they already have, then getting married would only add a piece of paper to the existing family arrangement. I don't think it is that important, if it is going to cause stress between the man and the woman. Better to keep the status quo. What they have is better than most marriages anyway.
If what you want is a marriage, then, yes. It does sound like you are wasting your time. If what you want is a family.. he's certainly eager and willing to have one. I would strongly suggest that, before you reproduce for him again, that you have some sort of a legal agreement drawn up for your own protection. Men who don't want to marry the mother of their children... sometimes decide, after there are kids taking up the mother's time, that they aren't too crazy about it after all.
He dont want to share his money with you.
Does he want to get married?
If marriage is your goal, it would surely seem you are wasting your time.
Yes so you can trap him and take his money later on. We men are not falling for that trap
You two live as a married couple, how is that wasting your time?
Talk to him about your expectations and desire to get married so he can tell you what's actually going on.