What’s the difference between bugging someone and reminding them?
My one friend borrowed my movies and I had reminded him to give those back to me because he has had them for 5 months though and he said I was bugging me! How can I bug him if I asked him a couple times after 3 months? I asked once after 3 months and then after 5 months, I had asked him if he is done with it and he just said: “YOU ARE BUGGING ME! YOU WILL GET THEM BACK WHEN YOU GET THEM BACK!” I then told him: “I am not bugging you, I am reminding you because you had them for so long.” Then he avoided the confrontation.
So what is the difference between reminding him and bugging him? I didn’t think I was nagging him at all. So what is the difference between those 2 with REMINDING and BUGGING?
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Honestly, it all depends on which side of the reminder you find yourself and how each person chooses to perceive it.
You and I think you've been more than patient and a friendly reminder has been way overdue. Your rude, inconsiderate friend, on the other hand, seems to feel that he has the right to do whatever he chooses with other people's things.
The amount of time is bad enough. That snotty reply would certainly guarantee that those movies would be last thing I ever loaned this "friend".
Question for you: is this really the type of person you want in your life? Maybe it's time to find someone new to share your movies with. I would.
You are not bugging him at all. Its been 5 months already, he should be giving it back to you by now. He's being rude for even saying you're bugging him. Reminding someone is when you let them know about something so they don't forget. Bugging someone will be if you constantly ask or say something all the time to the point where the other person is like "Okay I get it, you don't have to keep on reminding me". But in your case, I don't think you are bugging him because he should be giving you back the movies. It's been 5 months already. I would do the same if I were you.
Hi,
Bugging someone is when you get onto them all of the time, in other words nagging as you say. You have not done this at all. You have waited long enough now for it to be right and fitting that you remind him, which is what you have done. He should not have left it so long at all.
In truth, it has probably left him feeling annoyed that he has needed to be reminded. Well that's tough isn't it?