My best friend who I know for six year, who I helped in extreme financial difficulties even when she were unable to pay her rent and groceries, she tried several time in the past to have a relationship with me so we can get married. We discussed this thing several times and due to many reasons I made her clear that it is not feasible for both of us to have this kind of relationship. She agreed with me and we never tried again to develop that kind of relationship between us but became very good friend. Now that I am a successful person and engaged with someone else and my friend is trying every possible means to break my relationship with my Fiancée and her family. Unfortunately she seduced me several times and one time we had intimacy while we were drunk. Ever since she has been claiming that she is pregnant though so far three ultrasounds and three blood tests are negative but she claims she is 7 weeks pregnant. She trying to be against the abortion but already uses high potency antibiotic in early pregnancy (if there is one) and she is a very heavy smoker. So she already insulting the embryo and trying to blame others for the act. She already called my Fiancée’s family about the pregnancy to ruin my relationship with them. Yes I did request her for abortion if there is any pregnancy since it is also man’s right to make reproductive choices in the event of an unintended pregnancy especially when there are malintentions involved under the circumstances I described above.
So please provide your opinion on this situation when someone already cleared in her mind that I am engaged and will be getting married soon but with her planned actions she is trying to break it?
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I don't think a man has a right to tell a woman to have a abortion! You shouldn't have sleep with her!!!! You shouldn't have even been drinking with her in the first place. Sounds to me you do have some type of feelings for this girl cause your asking a bunch of strangers for the obvious answer.
first off she is not your friend if she cant be happy for you second she is not pregnant and if is not by you she is nuts its probably time to drop the relationship your lucky you still have a fiancee many would have left you already just for cheating and alcohol is no excuse break it off with her dont talk to her anymore and if she continues to harrass you your fiancee and her family its time to think about getting a restraining order shes crazy jealous and out of control she is not a real women if shes going to act like that i have a friend same situation as yours got married and i was happy for him i missed him alittle but neve tried to make him cheat or leave his wife she needs some therapy and alot of medication stay away from her she will posion anything good in your life
You obviously did NOT make it clear to either her or to yourself that it was not feasible for you to cheat on your fiancee.
Just how BIG is this girl? SHE seduced YOU several times ??? Are you saying you are so weak that you were unable to walk or crawl away????
If you want to be clear that you are engaged... ACT IT!
Give me a break. You are weak and will probably continue to cheat once you're married. You've made it so clear to everyone that your fiancee deserves better!
yea ur friend is really tryin hard to mess up ur relationship. i think that she just doesnt want to see u happy with somebody else so shes comin up with the excuse that she is pregnant so ur Fiance can leave you and that way u would stay with ur friend. but maybe u should go with her to get a pregnancy test. shes just jealous thats all. she will get over herself. just tell her that u really dont want to be with her and that u want to get married with this other girl. But u did do wrong when u was gettin intamate wit her when u were drunk, and being drunk is not an excuse. but just tell ur friend to back off.
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Well i'm sorry to hear about this, but if you say you had sex with her while you where drunk IM sorry but that is no excuse. YOUR relationship with your fiancee was already over.. And if she is pregnant with your child take full responilbily of your actions. Sorry to be so harsh but, to many people play on I was drunk card.
She is not your friend. A FRIEND doesn't do this to someone. A FRIEND is happy when her friend is in love and engaged to someone. She says she is your friend, but she wants you all to herself. Time to get rid of her. Tell her you are moving on, devoting yourself to your intended, and not to call or bother you anymore. If she calls, hang up, if she comes to the door, don't answer, if she happens to see you out and about, simply repeat, OUR FRIENDSHIP IS OVER. You have to stop this or she will ruin your marriage, too.
I agree with MissBliss... You need to kick her butt to the curb! and if she does end up pregnant along the lines be sure you get a paternity test! She sounds like someone who would get pregnant by someone else and say its yours just to ruin your marriage..
ok you should have never called her a "friend" she is far from being a "best friend" or even a "friend" first what you need to do is tell her (harshly) it is not going to happen. then if she still is pulling this crap tell her if she dos'nt stop you will take her to court. write all this stuff down and use your feanc'ee as a witness
Sounds to me like everyone needs to grow up.