So a co worker i’m close with asked me how my situation is with my ex and she told me,
“You seem like your struggling with the break up. Stay strong and I hope you make the right decision for you. whole heartily believe a toxic person will continue to come back, IF allowed. He knows the games to play and the stings to pull ALL the time, to get what he wants. I’m not saying he doesn’t care about you and this is going to be your choice. But don’ let him in, it gets harder. If you let him in again, something REALLY bad will happen and it will be too late. And if there’s ever a problem and you ever need anything don’t hesitate to talk to me. Seriously, I mean this from the bottom of my heart. I know it’s difficult to talk to your own parents or family members sometimes.”
Update:He likes me a lot and cares about me, I wouldn’t stay so long, if he didn’t.
Answers & Comments
Everyone has a good and bad side to them. Sadly, in your situation, your ex partner showed more of his bad side so you broke up with him.....very wisely. In your shoes I would remain out of a partnership with him. Partners who split and later get back together, more often than not, repeat history and split again even more acrimoniously than the first time round. Very few of them enjoy a second, better, relationship. You have already split up - so stay that way. Easier to get over it if you have absolutely no contact at all. No texts, social media, anything. Cut them right out of your life so that you can regain your self-esteem (this toxicity will have sapped that) and move on properly. Good luck
The simple answer is to let ex BE ex
Note: This question relates to the very first question I have posted on my profile.