Told my mom I was getting back into ballet. Is my own mother a dream crusher who doesn’t know how to just be supportive and happy for me?
Ballet been apart of my life for 20+ years. I stopped when I had my children. When I told my mom what I planned on doing I was just looking for some words of encouragement, support and a vibration of pure happiness since she SHOULD know what BALLET has always meant to me! But instead I got the response “ oh that’s nice, you should do it for fun and exercise. It’s not like you’ll become a professional ballerina anyway.!” I immedatiately said “goodbye mother” and hung up and started to cry. My own mother just crushed and stomped all over my spirit in 20 seconds.
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What dream has she crushed? You've done it for 20 years and are getting back into it. She's already supported you. Or did you pay for and get yourself to all those lessons?
If you were going to go pro it would've happened before you were 20.
No - your mother was being very supportive and realistic.
Surely you must realise that you've left it far too late to become a professional?
Most professional ballet dancers retire in their late 20s - after that, they're too old. A few continue into their 30s, but very few.
Ballet is for young dancers.
I'm sure that your mother didn't realise that you were seriously imagining that you could now get back into ballet at that level. I'm sure she credits you with being more intelligent than that.
For her to encourage you to have ambitions of a career in ballet would have been cruel.
If hearing the truth actually made you cry, you need to grow up and try to think clearly.
Your mother is not a "dream crusher" and she did NOT "crush and stomp all over your spirit" at all. You're being a total drama queen!
She quite rightly said that it was nice to take up your old hobby and enjoy it for fun and exercise.
Or did you expect her to lie to you and tell you that you're going to be a prima ballerina by next year?
Now - apologise to your mother for hanging up the phone on her, join a ballet class for older dancers and enjoy yourself.
But don't expect more than that.
Your mother was just being realistic surely as obviously it is the case that you would now be doing it for fun and exercise or rather that deep love of just doing ballet that any genuine ballet enthusiast has. Nothing wrong with that at all.
Why would you be crushed. I guess I'm not really understanding this as you were either not a professional before you had your children in which case it is too late, or if you were then you'd know just what it would take to become that again and wouldn't really take your mums words to heart.
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