So I’m 14. My parents are so over protective. What do I do?
They won’t let me go trick or treating with friends, they treat me like I’m five, and they won’t even let me use the toaster. Is this normal? Everytime I fight with them about it they tell me I’m being spoiled and they just don’t want me to die. But I’m old enough to know what’s good and what’s bad. Contrary to what they think, I’m a good kid. I’ve never even gone to the principals office. So when they treat me like I’m a baby it makes me annoyed. Especially when I have to tell my friends things like “I can’t go trick or treating with you because my parents think I’ll be kidnapped.” And ideas on how to address my parents about it would be ideal.
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Not to pile on, but you're at least two years too old to be trick or treating and maybe that's what your parents are responding to.
Well. Many parents don't let their children go trick-or-treating during Halloween night beacuse it's a very easy opportunity to get kidnap kids...but they don't let you use the toaster? That's going a bit overboard. So I guess only that part might not be normal. You should talk to them and show them how YOU feel. Express your frustrations without minimizing your parents' perspectives. Have patience and keep yourself composed so that you don't get angry at them because getting angry only reveals immaturity. You have to show them that you're capable or doing things on your own. I myself have protective parents, so I can understand you. Also, be open to any advice they give you, talk with a smile and show them that you are mature. Also, remember that you're still 14, and that's pretty young, so keep in mind both the positives and negatives of every action you take. Introduce your friends to your parents so that there can be trust between everyone and so that your parents know that their child is in good hands. Just have patience and keep trying.
Btw, about the toaster, you should have one of your parents stand with you and prove to them that you can use it smh
you have to start out step by step, i am currently loosening my parents grip. Introduce them to a group of your friends and stay in a large group for events (if your parents know them then theyll fell better because they know who you are with) the way that i got to go to a midnight highschool dance was by offereing the idea of telling them what is happening every 30 min, just saying yep im good still with the girls. if there is a frequent and constant communication that will help. Also letting them know exactly where you are and if you are going to a different place. just keep offereing ways that they can keep in touch with you because it shows them this is really what you want and you will find solutions to any problems
Since your parents feel you may be kidnapped you should address this concern directly by having them look at the GPS tracker you found on Amazon that will let them see your position and update your location every 60 seconds. You can also show them the GO Pro camera that you can wear while you are out with your friends that will stream what you see and hear while it is going on around you. I'm sure once they see the steps you are willing to take they will be happy to order these items so they can keep you safe.
I'm sorry about your situation. That really sucks. On the bright side, it shows that your mom truly cares about you and doesn't want anything bad to happen to you. What I would do is ask her if she would be willing to come along so that way you'd have an adult with you. If she doesn't then, try convincing her again. Don't get over dramatic and start crying like a baby, but tell her that you're in high school/Middle School and you understand it can be dangerous but you'll be extremely careful and it's not fair that she won't let you live this amazingly fun childhood experience. If she still doesn't let you go, wait until you're an adult and be sure to take your kids so at least they can have fun doing it even if you didn't. Hope I helped!
it's normal to feel frustrated in this kind of situation. Being out and about is dangerous like when trick or treating. The danger is real. don't feel embarrassed when you have to explain about your parents and trick or treating. They really love you it seems. So you're lucky. I guess they really like you and want you to stay around you know? fyi just ask your parents to buy you candy.
Your parents might need a therapist/psychologist to help them through anxiety over your safety and losing you or you getting hurt. Not being able to use the toaster is too much. So try to bring this to their attention. Request from your parents some sessions with a professional counselor. Good luck and God bless!
So invite them to come WITH you. There's a difference between spending time beating your head on a brick wall and walking around it.