Okay so in 9th grade i missed a lot of school...i wanted to go to this boarding school in India because it was way more fun/down to earth so i was in India until like end of November i came back and went to school here and they counted that as missing school so i had like Failed first semester than the rest of the year i was just slaking and thinking of my friends in India and stuff cause i really hate it at my school here i don't fit in and i never find friends who like what i like...i always have to be fake around people and i'm never me. So yeah i failed Algebra and got a D in english and the rest was B's and C's but yes i did horrible this year and didn't try at all, Also i told all my friends that i am going to India this summer for that school so i pretty much said bye to everyone and then in June after school ended i get a letter from the boarding school saying we can't accept you because of legal issues so now i have to go back to this school!!! i havent even picked classes for next year and i have a passing G.P.A but i'm still worried...and also about having friends...i don't know how to find the right friends...i hate being fake with people but honestly i can't find people who are into yoga and meditation and hinduism and stuff like that... :P help? sorry for horrible grammar and stuff..im Persian so english isnt my first language :/
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Don't ever pretend to be something you're not. I have a few acquaintances from India, and they always tell me how different and introverted people here in the states are. That we are NOT a friendly country. I highly doubt if you will find many guy friends that are into yoga and/or meditation. For some odd reason, it's just not a guy thing here. Have you tried to find any female friends?. Females are much more open to new experiences and ideas. Just find one that seems friendly enough and ask her if she would like to hang out as friends sometime.
The school thing is harder. Unless by some miracle the legal issue is cleared up within the next few weeks, you're going to have to come to the realization that you're going back to your old high school. It stinks, but there's nothing you can do about it. Once you make some friends though, it will be a lot easier handling day to day. Try joining one of the after school activities. Whether it's the chess club, art and/or music, or track and field. Pick something you enjoy doing and attend the meetings. There you will find kids that you have something in common with. I hope this helps. Good luck. Remember you only have 3 more years of that place, then you can get out of there.
PS Your English is better than most Americans your age.
Ok.. I don't know what your school is like, but mine (I'm going into my senior year) is a really small school. I did half a year of cyber and lost my friends. Focus on your grades. Don't slack off. Even if you can't find someone interested in yoga, meditation, etc. Maybe you can find someone who would be open to trying it. Just talk to people. When you get to your classes. Talk with the people around you. Be open to conversation. Even if you don't don make any real friends, everyone will see you as approachable. Maybe in those before class starts conversations someone will go "cool" when you say you're into that stuff.
I'll tell you one thing, I'm interested. I always wanted to get into yoga. Seriously though, grades are more important. Take it from me, I failed the first semester of my Junior year. I'd be happy to tutor you or just talk. Skype, tumblr, email, facebook, whatever. Hannah Solt on facebook.
I have a similar but somewhat more serious? problem than yours. I really wish to go to uni in my home country but due to financial issues I have to stay in a foreign country and study for 7-8 years. My dream has always been going back to where I belong but it doesn't seem possible. So all I'm trying to tell you is that its not only you who has those issues. But if you keep thinking about not having friends, then you won't have any. Just let it flow. It will be difficult and lonely at start. But later, you will meet right friends.
But if you really want to return to India, go there for your high school or university.