No. He should only pay his tab. Oftentimes I hear people say "He should pay the first or the first few and then she can start paying"
The only problem is that it assumed she will want a second, third or fourth date. If he pays the first 1-3, then she decides to move on, his money is gone and there will never be any reciprocation.
I've heard women say "but we have to pay for a new outfit, hair style and cosmetics". Let's debunk that, shall we. An outfit can be worn many times. Women don't get their hair cut and styled everyday. Cosmetics can be used multiple times. Women are great at rationalizing what they think men want, despite the opposite. Most men don't care if your outfit is a year old. Most men don't care how much paint you smear on your face. Most men don't care if you spent $100+ at the beauty salon.
Feminists say men paying for the first date is a social construct. Men know human nature better. They are well aware that if they do not pay, their chances of mating will be significantly reduced. Poll after poll after poll show that women do not want to go Dutch on a first date. Another downside for men is that most of the time they usually initiate the first date. Meaning they take all the risk of asking a woman out and face rejection. Most women are too frail to handle rejection because they are not used to it. So not only must men face rejection, they must also foot the bill because women and even so called "empowered" women are too afraid of asking men out.
In summary: Men and women are different, minus a few anomalies. Women will act like women and men will act like men, regardless of upbringing and culture. Feminists had 50+ years to take the reigns, yet declined. Screw feminism and those who support this failed social experiment.
I think the guy should pay on the first date and the girl should pay on the second. Or they both go dutch the first couple of times and then they alternate.
Given the situation the way it is now, I would think that the one who is in the best financial situation should pay. Things have changed big time. Normally I would say the guy should, that was always the courteous thing to do.
If I ask a girl to go out with me, I intend to pay for the opportunity to share her time. More importantly, I am able to pay for anything we do, and I value her time and companionship.
IMO whoever asked the person to go to a movie, dinner, bowling, whatever is the one responsible for paying for the date. The reason why folks think it should be the man is because a man is typically the one asking for the company of a woman. I agree it should be a man because I would not ask a man out. I have done this before and sadly asked the men who take advantage of a good nature and expect the asker to yield to their every need. SMH....
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That depends on who did the asking, and if it was a Dutch Treat date or not! Who ask should pay unless another arrangement is made a head of time.
Me and my husband went dutch on the first date.
I usually pay first date but everything i do is wrong
No. He should only pay his tab. Oftentimes I hear people say "He should pay the first or the first few and then she can start paying"
The only problem is that it assumed she will want a second, third or fourth date. If he pays the first 1-3, then she decides to move on, his money is gone and there will never be any reciprocation.
I've heard women say "but we have to pay for a new outfit, hair style and cosmetics". Let's debunk that, shall we. An outfit can be worn many times. Women don't get their hair cut and styled everyday. Cosmetics can be used multiple times. Women are great at rationalizing what they think men want, despite the opposite. Most men don't care if your outfit is a year old. Most men don't care how much paint you smear on your face. Most men don't care if you spent $100+ at the beauty salon.
Feminists say men paying for the first date is a social construct. Men know human nature better. They are well aware that if they do not pay, their chances of mating will be significantly reduced. Poll after poll after poll show that women do not want to go Dutch on a first date. Another downside for men is that most of the time they usually initiate the first date. Meaning they take all the risk of asking a woman out and face rejection. Most women are too frail to handle rejection because they are not used to it. So not only must men face rejection, they must also foot the bill because women and even so called "empowered" women are too afraid of asking men out.
In summary: Men and women are different, minus a few anomalies. Women will act like women and men will act like men, regardless of upbringing and culture. Feminists had 50+ years to take the reigns, yet declined. Screw feminism and those who support this failed social experiment.
They both should pay for it.
I think the guy should pay on the first date and the girl should pay on the second. Or they both go dutch the first couple of times and then they alternate.
Given the situation the way it is now, I would think that the one who is in the best financial situation should pay. Things have changed big time. Normally I would say the guy should, that was always the courteous thing to do.
Yes true. Its the oldest tradition. If he wont pay for the date he is not interested. Guys are generous to people they like/love
If I ask a girl to go out with me, I intend to pay for the opportunity to share her time. More importantly, I am able to pay for anything we do, and I value her time and companionship.
IMO whoever asked the person to go to a movie, dinner, bowling, whatever is the one responsible for paying for the date. The reason why folks think it should be the man is because a man is typically the one asking for the company of a woman. I agree it should be a man because I would not ask a man out. I have done this before and sadly asked the men who take advantage of a good nature and expect the asker to yield to their every need. SMH....