Should I tell my ex’s wife he cheated on her?

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Should I tell my ex’s wife he cheated on her?

I'd been in a secret relationship with my boss for for 6 months. I'm 24, he's 46. I wanted to be with him properly and he said he was going to leave his wife but after he kept making excuses about it not being the right time for her and his kids etc I told him either he told her or I will. Then he decided not to leave his wife and he's fired me from my job citing poor performance. Should I tell his wife what's been going on? My worry is she won't believe me and she'll just think I'm bitter about being fired.

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aesthetic

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I'm sure you can build up some evidence to prove to her that he's been cheating. Surely you've exchanged messages and phone calls and such? You should definitely tell her though. It's unfair that he should be allowed to make promises to you, and then drop you when it suits him. It's not a good idea to get involved with a boss, because if things go wrong then the consequences can be negative (like in your case). But despite that, you still didn't deserve to lose your job for that.

Patricia

Why would you tell his wife? She never did anything to you,and furthermore why would you want to destroy her world?

You have to realize that this is mostly your own fault for getting involved with a married man and for being naive too. Married men don't just up and leave their wives and families for someone they are having sex with. Marriage is a lot of emotional investment. There is also financial investment, and other types of security surrounding a married person. They are committed, and love their families. And with divorce they have a lot to lose.

You're just about sex... nothing more. And it's just sex.

Don't be a bitchy sore loser over this. You made a fatal mistake -- seeing a married man. Leave his wife the hell alone. She doesn't deserve to be harmed because of your choices. Just move on. There's no future in this for you.

Universeone

Just forget and find good guy.

He is real bad and cheater will be dumped from his wife due to his bad behavior.

Louise C

unfortunately married men have a tendency to do this sort of thing, they get carried away and make rash promises they don't intend to keep. it is very sad but telling his wife will not help matters, she either won't believe you or, if she does, will very likely think you are to blame. you will probably end up suffering the most. try and put this affair behind you and move on. and try to avoid married men. I know they can be very alluring but it isn't worth it in the long run.