If you have to ask strangers this question - rather than having a productive discussion with the man you're about to marry - then you shouldn't be getting married.

Furthermore, you shouldn't be marrying a guy who allows his children to influence his life to this degree.

And you shouldn't marry a guy if you believe that he doesn't trust you ... pre-nup or not.

Get a pre-nup, don't get a pre-nup, who cares ... the point is that you guys cannot communicate with each other. THAT is the real issue here. Pre-nups can be beneficial in some circumstances, but if you're not comfortable with it (or if you're unfamiliar with how it works or the benefits of it, particularly how it affects you personally) then you shouldn't just blindly sign it.

Put the wedding plans on hold for now, and TALK to the guy. Getting into couples counseling would be a wise idea as well. DO NOT resume wedding plans until this has been 100% sorted out and you are both in mutual agreement about whatever conclusion you come to.

pre nup could protect both of you.

Some have time limits, like after 5 or 10 years or longer, the pre nup will not matters.

I would say, go see a lawyer.

Was he married before? If so there only two ways for the marriage to end, divorce or death. Either way, he knows that things do not always happen the way you want.

A pre nup should protect both the people signing it.

You do not want to take way from his children, but it's a way to protect them.

You are able to put time limits or other reasons.

I would not sign one without a cheating clause, if he cheats, the pre nup is off.

First of all fiancé' is male; fiancee' is female.

Second, unless the person has substantial income or property then a pre-nup should not be necessary. Perhaps his kids see you as a gold digger due to the age difference. How well do you get along with his kids (which I'm assuming are about your age)?

If he has children that aren't also yours, then he should make some provision for them. Whether that's a pre-nup or a will, it's just good planning. It has nothing to do with your age difference and everything to do with different circumstances in his life than yours.

A pre-nup is simply a financial-planning tool and not a call to fate. But, if you can't bring yourself to sign one, then suggest your fiance draw up a will that makes clear what goes to his children when he dies.Know that that might freak HIM out.

If you're not marrying him for his money, then really you shouldn't have any issue signing a prenup. He's being wise to protect his assets in the event of a divorce. You're not planning for a divorce, you're planning for your financial future.

My husband comes from a wealthy family and had significant assets himself. I come from a lower middle class family. I was doing well for myself when we met, I didn't have the assets he did but what I did have, I worked hard to get. I had savings, retirement funds, stocks, a home I owned, a small business, etc so while I grew up poor, I also wasn't broke at that stage in my life.

We have a prenup. I signed that prenup and had no issues doing so, I was showing to him (and his family) that I was in it for him, not what he had. So yes, should we divorce some terms of our divorce are already figured out we were wise enough to realize we may not always be as happy as we were then and when divorce is on the horizon people change, especially when it comes to money.

You likely have a false misconception of how a prenup is done, it's not like you see on tv or in the movies where one person gets everything and the other leaves with nothing. For a judge to sign off on a prenup, it has to be fair to both spouses, not one sided. You also both are required to have your own legal representation to work out the terms of it. We're still happily married 11 years later and haven't needed the prenup.

It's also unlikely (but not impossible) that your marriage with your age gap will last.

Like people say a pre nup is to protect both parties when getting divorce.

His daughter is looking out for her dad you don't know if your marriage will last as things can change.

If you are not after his money, then there is no reason not to sign it.

Honestly, if my dad was dating a 24 year old in his 40's I would feel the same way.

I have a relative that is a "professional" user of people. Men, women, anyone she can and she hides it from these people until she is done with them. Very shady and nasty under the veil of sweetness.

Sorry, I am all for a pre nup.

It's not a lack of trust or preparing for divorce, it's an understanding that life happens and it's to protect you both.

His daughters are looking out for their father. Perhaps they don't trust you but him agreeing to a pre nup is not an indication he doesn't love or trust you. It's just an adult looking at marriage in an adult way.

Why are you getting married to a man twice your age? Don't get me wrong, my parent's had an age gap, but 24 and 43 is a huge difference in lifestyle and values.

You don't. I am guess you probably are about the age of his children then. A prenuptial agreement is a financial planning tool, not a precursor to divorce. Just like a will - having a will, will not hurry one's death. So, if he has debts that existed before you, you will not be responsible for them in the first 5 to 10 years (depending on the term of the agreement), which is good for you, especially if he owns his own business. Get a lawyer to review this and make some amendments that make you feel better about the situation. You should be talking this out with him first, of course.

Maybe this is a way you can show you have good intentions and that he can trust you. Ask to talk it over with the lawyer of your choosing to make the prenup. You can make it where y'all are both secure in case of divorce not where you can take everything he has which I'm sure isn't your intentions but people get screwed when they get a divorce and at 43 he has probably collected a lot of assets he wants to keep in his family for his children. It's just wise nowadays to do this when you have assets