I’m scared to tell my boyfriend the truth about how many people I slept with. He should me that he’s very judgmental about that. He mentions that if I was ever like that and he found out he would look at me differently and rethink about being with me, but I kept up with the lie and still said “I would neverrr i only been with 3 people” I told him this too when we first started dating that I only been with 3 people but in reality it was 7 because I knew how judgmental he was about... but now the thought of me lying to him is haunting me, and the topic of multiple past sex partners keeps coming up as if it’s a sign to tell him. I’m just scared that he would break up with me because of it and I understand why, but I want him to know why I lied. And be straight forward about my past sex life... but I don’t know if I should or how...
help or any opinions please?!
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What you did in your life before you met your present b/f should be irrelevant to your relationship.
If you tell him that you had 7 lovers before you met him , and he leaves you because of it, then he does not think much of you and is not worth bothering with.
I don't know how old you are, but 7 lovers these days is not excessive and many people have had twice that amount before settling down for good.
You played butthole roulette and you lost the draw
I think you should ask yourself why you are dating someone who makes you feel bad about yourself. If the topic of your past keeps coming up, it's because he already suspects you of lying. So besides having incompatible values and expectations, he doesn't trust you either. This isn't a healthy relationship and this isn't a problem people who love and respect each other have. Just cut to the chase and end it now on your own terms. He isn't special, everything you like about him can be found in a guy who is less jealous and immature.
You can tell him and if he breaks up with you then oh well he wasn't feeling it and if you love him then you should be ok with him making that decision because you just want him to be happy am I right? And if that does happen just remember how you felt and don't go sleeping around if you are trying to get with a guy who is saving himself for a woman who saves herself for the person she truly loves. There is a thing called being a born again virgin and it's taking an oath to not sleep with anybody except your one true love so you might want to consider taking part in that and telling him that you won't sleep with anybody again not even him until you are sure that y'all love each other
Shut up. Both of you.
Why is it any of his business. :)
All that matters is who she comes home to. I never ask; they are as entitled to a past as I or anyone else is and its 'the good and bad' that form, us into who we are today [which in your case is the person you want to be with] am i right?
"And be straight forward about my past sex life"
I'm eager to have one -smirks-