You are worried for , if there is another girl ? I think that is a very important thing to find out first. You have not met in person yet and you don't really know him that well besides what he has written to you. Rather than asking him to spend the New Year's Eve , you'd better off asking him another day. Most people have days off at the end of the year so I am sure that he could come over and meet you during his holidays. Ask him for that. New Year's Eve is not a good idea. Because ususaly there are many people at one place, people drink and let them selves loose. It is not the best time to get to know a person. You may get very disappointed and still don't know where you stand. I think , it is time for you to be more specific with your questions so that you feel more secure in this relationship. You could ask him things like this : You are in my heart alone. Am I in your heart alone ? I feel I want to get to know you better in person. I would love to meet up in the next holiday period. What is your favourite thing to do in the holidays ?. So, here are. Few questions that are not too pushy. You need to know more about him because you are invested in this relationship . You need to know how serious he is. If the reply is positive you will feel a whole lot better.

It a huge risk knowing that there's someone else possibly involved, however, if he's the one that informed you of this, is he worth your time and effort? Because already (Your words) he might very well be seeing her while trying to get you to like him too. Bit of a scumbag tactic going on here! Also, New Years Eve is kind of an emotional special time of the year, so, would you really be that disappointed knowing he's rejected your offer for his gf or equally as happy knowing he'd dumped the other girl who might well be someone else he's been toying with? Personally, he doesn't look like a prize to me, and you need to come to your senses too because you're worth far more than long nights of waiting to hear from him because you're no longer his flavour of the month.

You might as well ask now and see what he says. that way you won't "always wonder". Life is too short!

nothing risky about that i say do it. because not doing it is the risk.. i mean don't you want to know now prior to building up more hopeful feelings. on yoru own with out him?

wouldn't you want to build those feelings up with him if he wanted to do that too?

something i remember growing up. was adults telling me the man should make the first move.

i never understood that because in school i was taugh if you want something go get it.

i was the chick that asked dudes out. always had a date too. got denied a lot too. more than i'd want to admit. but i always took the risk and asked. and the worse thing that happened was the word no.

no i'm sorry. yeah i lost some that could of been great friends. but deeply i would of always wanted them for something more so it was for the best no point in dangling that carrot infront of me while i walk . and i control that. not them.

as yourself why you think you would look bad for trying for something you want.

do you tell your siblings that when they try for something like practiing for a tuba player. do you tell them awe you suck bette rluck next time. no you don't say that if you do well then maybe my advice won't work for you.

most people say keep trying..

that tuba player didn't make the tuba seat tho. he did make the brass winds and plays the trumpet now. he is better at the trumpet. and still gets to play his music.

so i don't understand how trying is going to make you look bad. i think you don't know how to cope with not getting what you want. personally.

No, of course it's not wrong to ask a guy to spend New Year's Eve with you especially when you've both admitted feelings for each other.

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"there might be another girl" So what? He can date whomever he wants until he has dated someone long enough that he and she agree to be exclusive.

"I’m worried of making a mistake" So what? Everyone is. Such is life. If you let fear hold you back, you aren't going to get what you want.

"if he doesn’t want to it’ll look bad on me" It's just one date. Stop being so dramatic. If he decides you're not the girl for him, it doesn't mean you did anything wrong.

Take a risk. Worst case he says no.