She’s not very affectionate with me?
We have been together for 7 months and she struggles to be affectionate at all, I do so much for her and have been there for her through some tough times but she claims a thank you is all she can give. I sent her a nice message yesterday talking about how grateful I am to have her in my life and how much she means to me and she never said anything about it I brought it up to her and all she said was yeah I did enjoy it thanks like literally I open up to her and that’s all I get I’m starting to question whether or not she actually feels the same way? What do you guys think
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She is who she is.
You cannot change that.
Either it is enough for you, or you need to find someone else.
Understand that no one EVER loves us the way WE love them, nor the way we wish they would love us. Always, there will be some flaws because all of us ARE flawed.
Love works because we are (1) whole inside and do not need another TO be happy, and (2) we accept our partner AS they are (except if they are truly awful .. abusive, etc .. then we do not accept .. we LEAVE).
It sounds as if the relationship is stale, and you deserve a lot more than is going to happen with this woman. Time to end it, and go find someone who is affectionate and acknowledges that you are there. Don't settle for this. You're not happy, and you should be.
Three things happening here bro.
First is you sound like a bit of a pu$$ - real needy and desperate for her approval. You may be embarrassing the cr@p out of her and she doesn't want to feed the troll.
Second you gf may just be emotionally closed, so whatever she feels, she is not overly expressive of it. That doesn't mean she isn't into you. Seven months is long enough for her to decide she wants to stick around. She's still there right? I've saved the worst till last. She may have put you into what I call the blah-blah-blah zone. Women do it when they've decided nothing you're likely to say is going to be particularly profound so they simply tune out whenever your start speaking. That's a bad place to be. Husbands do it to their wives as a necessity, but when a girl does it, means she doesn't respect you.