My fiancé of 5 years and I are separating we have 2 children a 4 month old and a 19 month old I received a compensation payout 4 years ago when we were dating and I used 145000 of it as a deposit on our home which we sold we ended up getting 100000 back and last year I compromised and spent 10000 on my car and 30000 on his as he is a carpenter and was setting up to be self employed u also spent about 15000 for his trailer and tools I had also previously paid out his 12000 and 10000 car loans he has just started being self employed but now we are separating and part of me feels as though he should repay some of this as he will no longer be supporting us and has a great car and all his tools for work and no loan where most people would when I have an average car and no longer any savings as I invested pretty much all of it in him :( do you think I am horrible as I intend to ask him to repay 200 a fortnight over the next 4 years so that he eventually repays me 20000? I would like to put 5000 in a trust account for each of our children and have 10000 to be saved so I can hopefully look at buying a home down the track when I can start/finish uni and stet working again. Please if you feel it's not right do not be hurtful emotionally I can't handle it I would just like some constructive advice thanks in advance :)
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It wouldn't hurt to ask/seek repayment. But let it be a lesson to you to not ever do something like that again, unless of course you are married and will be entitled half of it anyways ;) Good luck hun.
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I think you have every right to ask for and expect repayment of at least a portion of the money you've spent. I'm not sure you can compel him to agree. Without any written documentation that there was such an agreement when the loans were made you'll just be depending on him to do the right thing. I hope he does.
Since you have been in a long term relationship, a separation taken to the courts will usually result in a even split of assets. Since you have invested in his business (be capable of proving this) you will get a share of his business profits or a payout. Talk with an attorney.
YOu can ask, but he is not your husband and therefore not bound to giving you anything for you,. For the kids is something else. I'd discuss this with a divorce attorney, because child support and health plans and college is entirely something else.
I'm quite certain you will be demanding child support so in that regard he will in fact be supporting you.
That said , your justification " He will no longer be supporting us " is null and void .
You can ask but more than likely he will not repay you. You cannot force him to either.
You could ask him to pay you , but i'm not sure that he will