So the girl I’ve been talking to we started talking through a friend. We have never met! But she wants to have sex and sex acts the first date we meet. I’ve built up a great connection with her! It’s been 2 years since my last relationship. I’ve also a Virgin. She’s been out for over a year after an abusive relationship. The only person she’s had sex before with is her ex bf so it shows me she’s not a slut. I may sound super desperate but I want to date her. The only problem is she isn’t sure what she wants. She’s leaving to start her career in NYC in about 6-7 months. She said if she liked someone so much she’d still date when she leaves. She will be in town for the holidays. Of course I’ve never had sex before. And I’ve always been way to connected early in a relationship and am worried I’m going to get hurt no matter what happens. However I do want her in my life! How can I persuade her to date vs fwb? Even if we don’t date I would still like to have sex! How do I control my feelings for her if we don’t end up dating.
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You're worried about stuff that's never happened and might never happen. Cart before the horse. I get you think you want a "relationship" with this gal you've never met who wants to treat you like a piece of meat but it's entirely possible you'll change your mind.
If your really that interested in dating over getting laid, then just be straight with her. But honestly, I think your barking up the wrong tree because she's made it pretty clear she wants to get laid, and she's gonna be moving eventually anyway. So what better Christmas could you give yourself then to lose your virginity.