So we were having breakfast the other morning, and she put in some toast… I told her I wanted golden brown… not underdone, and not burnt, just in the middle.
So she brings it out, and it is like “milk toast” like barely even toasted, so I told her to put back in longer… Then I reminder her, NOT TOO DARK… well, I could smell it from the living room, and had a feeling that it was too done…
So she brings it to me, and it was already buttered and jellied…
So I knew exactly what she was doing, she did it to hide the fact that it was dark brown and not golden brown… so I took it, scraped a little off, showed her how bad she over did it, and threw it against the window…
After that, I felt bad, so I apologized, and even was nice enough to get the windex out for her to clean it up…
Well it’s been over a day, and she is giving me the silent treatment… I don’t get it, SHE is the one who made the mistake, and SHE is the one who made it worse by trying to cover it up… If she just did the toast right to begin with, we wouldn’t be in this mess! I mean, am I wrong here?
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Yes you are the bad guy here. You are also immature and selfish and treat your wife like a servant. It is just toast man. It that makes you upset you have issues you need to deal with. You can make your own toast if she does not make it the way you like it. Are your hands broken? Why did you get upset when she was nice enough to you to make toast for you instead of telling you to make it yourself. This action of yours shows disrespect for your wife and shows that you only care for yourself. You are a poor husband and a poor human being. Time to grow up and stop acting like a helpless baby. Your wife is not your mom You are an adult, do things for yourself. Serving you is not the purpose of your wife.
I'm going to be honest here, I'm a woman and I wouldn't be talking to you either after that. There is a huge difference between being mad about toast, and throwing the toast against the window like a child. It shows immaturity, impatience and in the end almost an anger problem. My father had severe anger issues and would throw things all the time, I learned from his behavior and sometimes do the same. However, I never ever do it in front of someone, and have basically stopped doing so in general because throwing things can really scare another person. If you're lashing out like that how can she be comfortable you won't throw it at her next time? Imagine it from her point of view, it's scary, and it's just toast. If you're getting mad about toast.. Then you need to figure out what is REALLY bothering you in the relationship, because its not just the toast.
But yes, she has every right to be mad.
First of man you've got a cool attitude, well yes you are wrong because deep inside you know you do and you feel bad, I hate to interfere with your personal life and the way you get things done, but you were to bossy on her, and if you keep that behavior you will keep fighting and arguing, the best thing to do is to win arguments through actions, when she brought it to you and it was white, you should have got off your *** went to the toaster and did it yourself, that way she would be feeling bad about herself and will try to jump in and satisfy you, and for all the next times she would have done it the same exact way you wanted her to. you got to be clever man, don't get emotional on her because that is what women are supposed to do, plus throwing it on the window wasn't cool at all, think before you act because you obviously have some anger issues, learn meditation or something if you feel like you need to. just try to tease her a little bit and try to have make it up by sex or something. if she was just a GF or something it would have been different advice, but you are talking about a wife here, and you don't want to lose her over some toast.
good luck man!
It's a ******* piece of toast...are you kidding me? Looks like YOUR the one with crazy anger issues and you like to control way too much. Back off, holy crap.