My parents won’t let me go out late to hangout with friends and I’m 20 in college and working? I do however live with them?

May 2021 5 125 Report

My parents won’t let me go out late to hangout with friends and I’m 20 in college and working? I do however live with them?

I’ve been talking to this girl for awhile and we want to hangout a decent amount of time. However my parents don’t trust me to drive through some very narrow construction highways. They pull the since you live here you go by my rules. I understand since I’m living with them it’s their right to do so. They always get upset when I text them or tell them I’m going out. They get pissed because I didn’t ask. Now because she lives 45 minutes away it makes it difficult. I just want my own life. I’ve thought about moving out but it’s a difficult option as I work but don’t make much. I’m going to try to sit them down to talk because I’m tired of it. What should I do? I know what there answer will be I’m just not sure what to counter with.

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Foofa

Get them to invite the girl over for dinner. If they like her they'll probably be more willing to help facilitate this relationship.

Serene E

Sigh........i would have a talk with them and ask why can't you do what you want? Yes, you lvie with them, but they should know that you're dependable, a good kid.

So why are they so afriad and controlling?

Mike A

You plan on sitting them down and talking about what exactly?

If you want to live like a child, you will continue to be treated like one, with curfews, weird rules, restrictions and other such things. Your parents are under no obligation to actually let you live there, and this very "talk" you're planning on having with them could end with you being homeless.

My advice is to stop acting entitled. Get a better job. You're right about the age where it's no longer cool to live with your parents, and it's getting less cool by the day. It is amazing that you have a girl who's interested in you, but unless you are doing something to better your life, she's just going to pass you by.

I lived at home til I was 22. It was a really dumb idea, and I should have moved out way sooner. D-student effort will get you nowhere in this world.

And that's the best advice I can give

seedy history

You counter with the facts. You aren't going to learn to be an adult without practicing being an adult. And 20 is too old to be practicing being a teenager.