My mom has various health issues and she isn’t even slightly determined to change anything, what do I do?
My mom (49) has fatty liver, is overweight and might have liver cancer. Just a week ago when she told us she might have liver cancer she looked determined but not even a week has passed and she reversed to her old habits. She is still eating a lot of carbs and fats and lying about exercising. Just now, I told her to at least go walk on the treadmill but she isn’t and when I try to have a logical conversation with her about this she doesn’t focus and instead watches tv. What should I do?
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nothing you can't make her do anything
Mind your own business. I doubt you are capable of that though.
You keep posting questions that show you aren't honest and are just seeking answers to validate your needs. Grow up and stop seeing others as the source of all your problems.
It's sad and I fell you. I'm not sure what you can do. Maybe she is just depressed and she's hiding it from you. Maybe she's given up on herself? If your going to do anything you're going to have to act like a strict parent, hide the tv, the fatty foods etc. She will complain but she'll thank you later. Maybe ask her how she feels emotionally and that you know that she hasn't been exercising.
What's her doctor planning to do about the possibility she has liver cancer? What diagnostic tests is she going to have? I have to point out that if she has it, walking on a treadmill isn't going to help. It's a very serious form of cancer.
It's likely, too, that she is suffering from depression. That may need treatment.
Even if she doesn't have cancer, get this through your head: you cannot MAKE her do anything. She has to make that decision for herself, and right now, she may be taking a rather fatalistic approach, that there's not much point in doing anything until and unless she knows whether she has cancer or not. Your job now is to be emotionally supportive. As someone who has faced a potential cancer diagnosis, I can tell you that's what she needs most at the moment, not demands that she exercise.