My husband told me: “Go and make yourself pretty..."?
We were still in bed this morning when my husband told me: “go and make yourself pretty.” I got upset and he doesn’t understand why.
I recently turned 25. We've been together for 3.8 years. And I don't think that he's ever said something even remotely similar to me. He added that he thinks I should put on some make up to achieve the desired results?!?!
Now he says to me: "Stop taking it the wrong way" - like it's my fault!
I feel extremely angry at the moment and don't think he's right to talk to me this way.
What do I tell him to stress how bad this situation that he created is?
Update:EDIT: Yes, we were about to go out to brunch. Thanks everyone for the answers! I did apologize and I guess we're good now.
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Pearl was on the right path, but she was wrong about us being bad with words.
What she meant was that you picked a guy who is bad with words.
What was the context? Was he wanting to create a sex fantasy scene? Is there a chance he had a surprise date in mind and wanted you to be dressed appropriately for the location or event?
it's hard to answer without a little more background. On the surface, I'd just chalk it up to foot-in-mouth syndrome; he should heal nicely in a day or two. As for him minimizing the impact it had on you...if you routinely react like this, it might be worth looking at for yourself. If it's really random, inform him that he doesn't get to tell you how to feel, that you hope he sincerely reconsiders his 'need' for you to wear makeup in bed, and that you'll be glad to talk about it...over dinner. (Not in the bedroom!)
Was that the first sentence exchanged, or was anything else said before that? If you were discussing going out for brunch or something, then that is 100% acceptable, but if it's the only thing he said, then its kind of uncool, but not worth getting too upset about. As another person replied, it IS a figure of speech.
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A girl wnats to always look pretty and attractive.
Some girls think there is no need to look pretty after they get married! If you are slowly moving into that kind of thinking after crossing 25, don't do that. Not for your husband but for yourself... you will yourself feel better and happy when you make yourself pretty! Look in the mirror and find out for yourself.
Both Pearl and Grace have a point however, I probably would have said something like: "How about putting on some make-up to further enhance your natural beauty." Unfortunately most guys are not as eloquent so just let it pass. I'm sure he didn't mean you are ugly.
My men have always fallen for me because I am "doable" and not because I am sooooooooo beautiful. I feel sorry for you because it is easy to be sexy when you are in your 20's, 30's and even 40's but I am in my 50's and I am sexy. If you would have just put on a smile you would have achieved what no makeup could ever do.
If it was me I probably would have told him that I would as soon as he went and made himself handsome. And then I would get out the old yellow pages and start looking for a good divorce lawyer. According to statistics it usually takes a man at least 5 years to start disliking the way his wife looks first thing in the morning.
Guess I don't see the issue. It's just a figure of speech.
If we were laying in bed and my husband told me "go make yourself pretty" or "go get beautiful", it means get up and get going because he's ready to start the day. He might say "go get beautiful and I'll take you out for breakfast" or something like that. It simply means to get up, get showered and get ready. It's not a criticism.
Well, many times men say offensive stuff without even realizing it. Just tell him that it hurt your feelings and tell him why and maybe he'll get the message.