How old is this son of yours? If an adult whose bills were incurred as an adult I'd think he should be responsible for his own bills. If a child of yours of course it makes sense to pay off the medical bill - unless your husband already had a payment plan in place?
Either way, I can understand why he is upset, and its not about control. Its about making these big decisions AS A COUPLE. Hopefully he's as inclined to talk to you when making big money decisions too.
I know I'd be upset. So would my husband if I went and did that without talking to him about it. If we are going to spend or give away large sums of "our" money then we need to talk about it and come to some sort of decision. Even if we don't necessarily agree at least we aren't caught unaware.
Perhaps its time you two talked, really talked about what is a priority in your lives together.
I hope you're able to start saving again. And why would your husband be upset to get a debt out of the way? At least it's paid and you don't have that hanging over your head anymore.
Are you trying to ask if you were right or wrong in doing that? No one here knows the background as to why you did it, so I'll have to side with your husband.
You're married and you just make financial decisions without talking it over with your spouse, and it's "your" money? Hmmmm. I am the only one who works and makes money and it's still "our" money. I work for "us," so the fruits of my labor belong to us. She doesn't have to have a job to be entitled to know where the money goes. She's my spouse, so big money items are discussed before we do anything. Your way of thinking on this topic, is the reason for many divorces. He has every right to be upset. You should have consulted with him first.
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Sweetheart.. ANY time you spend money, you have SPENT money, not saved anything.. DUH.
How old is this son of yours? If an adult whose bills were incurred as an adult I'd think he should be responsible for his own bills. If a child of yours of course it makes sense to pay off the medical bill - unless your husband already had a payment plan in place?
Either way, I can understand why he is upset, and its not about control. Its about making these big decisions AS A COUPLE. Hopefully he's as inclined to talk to you when making big money decisions too.
I know I'd be upset. So would my husband if I went and did that without talking to him about it. If we are going to spend or give away large sums of "our" money then we need to talk about it and come to some sort of decision. Even if we don't necessarily agree at least we aren't caught unaware.
Perhaps its time you two talked, really talked about what is a priority in your lives together.
Rather than being upset, one might think he'd be pleased you saved so much. There must be more to the story.
well tell your husband to repay you from his savings account if he is so upset
naah
he is upset because he thinks that what is yours belongs to him and he has lost control because you did something without ask permission
Maybe it is time to reexamine your relationship
...and your question is WHAT?
I hope you're able to start saving again. And why would your husband be upset to get a debt out of the way? At least it's paid and you don't have that hanging over your head anymore.
Are you trying to ask if you were right or wrong in doing that? No one here knows the background as to why you did it, so I'll have to side with your husband.
You're married and you just make financial decisions without talking it over with your spouse, and it's "your" money? Hmmmm. I am the only one who works and makes money and it's still "our" money. I work for "us," so the fruits of my labor belong to us. She doesn't have to have a job to be entitled to know where the money goes. She's my spouse, so big money items are discussed before we do anything. Your way of thinking on this topic, is the reason for many divorces. He has every right to be upset. You should have consulted with him first.
it was your money, but you should have consulted him first. If you or your husband need the money for an
emergency it is gone.It is your money, but you should have asked him first. Tell him that.
PS WE don’t share accounts