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She probably has cervical dysplasia NOT cervical cancer.

Communication is needed for a good marriage.

Ask her if you can go to surgery with her. If she says no

then I would be suspicious.

I personally have had cervical cancer. I was diagnosed at 25 yrs old. I was stage 1 and had no symptoms at all. I never had any pain. As someone else stated, pain typically only occurs when the cancer is in an advanced stage. Cervical cancer is highly curable if caught and treated early.

Honestly, it would be very hard to guess or assume what stage she is in w/o knowing anything. I am in the beginning stages just diagnosed with hpv, had colposcopy, biopsy, just waiting for surgery. My fiancee's ex wife had cancerous spots on her cervix which was really controlled by getting her cervix lazered once a week, luckily for her. I don't know much about cervical cancer or your situation, I just wanted you to know you're not alone. She's a very lucky woman to have you by her side being so caring and supportive. That's really the best thing you can do for her, just be there for her as best you can as it's a scary thing to go through (I'm terrified). Have you tried just talking to her about it? It's a scary painful topic, not easy by any means but just ask her...tell her you love her and want to completely be there for her but you need to know. Do your best to let her know you're there for her and not going anywhere. I'm so sorry for what both of you are going through and I pray for her full recovery. Best of luck, Nicki

She is 22, and at that age it is more likely that she has per-cancerous growths, not full blown cancer.

Frankly, I don't hold out a lot of hope for your relationship if your future wife is not able to discuss her health issues with you. Assuming she does have a medium to late stage cancer, then she may be getting a hysterectomy, which means that you will not be having kids together.

If she has cervical cancer, or per-cancerous lesions, then she has about a 90% chance of having been infected with HPV. That in and of itself is not a huge deal, but you should talk to your doctor about looking for the signs and you should get vaccinated against HPV, even if you need to pay for it yourself. Men get head and neck and anal and penile cancers from HPV, so you want to watch for it.

This woman has promised to marry you and share her life with you but she won't tell you the truth about what is happening to her? Personally I think she is exaggerating her condition to get the sympathy but then I may be wrong there. Either way why aren't you involved in her appointments? When I was diagnosed with breast cancer my husband was there all the way so that we both knew what was going on and what would be happening. Most specialists recommend bring someone with you as it can be very confusing and overwhelming.

As Denise said, go to the next appointment and if she won't let you then dump her.

That is the most immature thing I have heard.

Cervical cancer has no symptoms until it is advanced and rarely painful, so if she is telling you the truth you probably are losing her. Go to a doctor’s appointment with her and if she doesn’t let you dump her.