My fiancé and I can't agree on my best male friend being in the wedding?
My best friend is a male. When I get married, I want him in my wedding party to support me. My fiancé wants a more traditional approach. He's offering to have my friend in his party and I can have one of his close female friends in mine. I disagree, because I want my bridal party to be filled with people who are close to me, not him. Any suggestions for a compromise?
Update:In response to yuki, thank you, I am aware that it isn't all about me. And the point remains that I want MY bridal party filled with MY loved ones and his filled with his. I don't want his best friend in my bridal party. It isn't selfish. It's my opinion.
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Listen to your fiance. Compromise is the basis of any good marriage. The wedding is a very small part of the marriage, and a good marriage should be your true goal. Have a picture made with you and your best male friend, or ask him to do something special at the wedding.
Robin, the Matron of honour is a married woman, not a man, as opposed to a maid of honour being unmarried.
Jade, the bridal party is everyone, bride and bridesmaid, groom and groomsmen. There isn't two separate camps. Are you sure it's your fiance wanting to be traditional and not trying to compromise on him being jealous of your friend?
its not all about you, believe it or not, he's getting married two. if you start your marriage off selfish it wont last long. the best man isn't decided by the bride, its the grooms best friend/brother, or whoever he chooses. i think he made a valid compromise to have your friend in his party. and his close friend in yours. they are both there to support, why does it matter what side of the aisle they stand on so long as they are there.
It sounds to me like your fiance's compromise was a very reasonable one. You want only your friends in your party and I expect he anticipated having only his friends in his. If you are unwilling to do this much in equal measure, then what are you going to do when real issues in your marriage arise?
I think his position is a little silly, but if you want to compromise, I suggest ditching ” my side and your side” and interspersing everyone throughout the party. Make it boy/girl, boy/girl, with the people standing closest the best friends, regardless of gender.
Actually there is such a thing as a maid of honor and a matron of honor (the male maid of honor) so it wouldn't be not traditional. The. Groom can have a best man and best woman too.