I dated this guy when I was 18, we stayed friends and we were better that way. I’m 26 now and he’s 29. He recently broke up with his girlfriend and is now calling me a lot, and last night I went out with him just for a coffee and talk, as we have done pretty often over the last few years. He mentioned a specific night a few months ago when I went out with him and a few other friends, he said he wanted to hook up with me that night. I quickly changed the subject. I know him enough to know he’s not what I want in a boyfriend, but he’s a great friend and I want it to stay that way. He’s not a confrontational person and would never tell me he likes me, he would just flirt till I give in. How should I let him know I’m not interested? Or should I just create a huge awkward moment and tell him how I feel?
Answers & Comments
If I were you, I would keep on emphasizing the word "friend" until he finally got it. You are a good friend - I am so glad you are my friend - etc.
If he is clueless, then you could indicate that you might be seeing a new gentleman - just to let him know you moved on. If he still insists on flirting with you, then sit him down and say LOOK! I just want to be friends with you - if you want more - then look somewhere else - I am not interested. Get the picture?
Don't be friends with ex's it never works out.