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Who says you have to talk about that subject. Think about things you two enjoyed together, that should be your subject matter.

I do not know what type of disagreement could have led to

you losing all of this time with your child, but I bet in the

end that you both could have handled the situation differently.

Regardless, the fight is over and today is a new day.

Do not allow pride to prevent either of you from missing

out on the special bond between a parent and a child.

How about starting out with.......

The past is the past.

Blame is futile.

What matters now is that I miss my child and

I am reaching out to you.

Best wishes

I am not sure of your ages or the situation in which you stopped talking, but this has been MY experience.......maybe it can give you some insight.

After I had my first daughter (she was about 6 weeks old at the time actually) my mom and I got into this petty stupid argument, which exploded into something even more stupid (basically, we werent spending Christmas dinner together because of family issues...she wasnt coming. But since she wasnt I invited my ex-stepdad over because I was still close to him and didnt want him to be alone). This turned into saying more hurtful and stupid things. We didnt talk for over 6 years.

Finally, I decided that this is just stupid. Now, I am not saying eithier of us are right or wrong, because I am sure that we both were to an extent. I just went over to her house and told her that I didnt want to drudge up the past, I told her that I think we were both right and wrong in many ways and that I wanted to have her in my life and my kids lives (I had 2 kids at that point, 3 now).

Since then I think she has a bit more respect for me that I am able to make decisions that she may not agree with, but it isnt worth fighting over. And I have the respect for her that I know somethings I do she wont agree with and may in some little way hurt her. I am observant to that (if observant is the word).

We have been talking now for 2 years and I am closer to her now than I even have been. And I think that the key was just ONE of us saying that we didnt like how things were. So if you are feeling in your heart that you really want a relationship with your daughter again, go ahead and make the first move. Dont grasp to the past, but maybe even just talk about the present.

Best of luck! God Bless

I say just send her a message and ask her how she's been since the last time you had talked. Not mentioning the disagreement. But just lightly catching up. See where it goes. Just see where it goes, and make sure she knows that you miss her.

- Don't wait for her, be the first to call and don't let your ego stop you. After all she is your daughter.

- Ask her how shez been all this time (show that you care)

- Call her by her nick/childhood name (let her know you miss her)

- Invite her to your home, *may be this Thanksgiving*, but let her know she can come anytime, it need not be an occasion (let her know she is always welcome)

- Advice her to be safe and take care (show that you are concerned)

- Let her know you'd always be there if she ever needs your help (remind her, no matter how big the differences you'd always LOVE her)

i would send her a message, keeping it light and uncontroversial....and see where it goes...